I went to the beach with my 13 yr old son and 10 yr old daughter and i almost got in a fight. this woman lays down in front of us and takes off her top and her big bare b o o b s were just wiggling everywhere as she sat up looking all tough cause she was toppless. so i went over and made her put a shirt on, and she got in my face. i was so embarrased cause my kids and my boyfriend were looking the whole time. while i was confronting this woman. i ended up pushing but then my bf broke us up. could i have handled this better?
2007-03-08 00:15:37 · 12 answers · asked by Laura 77 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i felt awkward starting a fight with a woman whose big bare boobs were hanging out. i thought it would have looked intimidating for her??
2007-03-08 01:28:18 · update #1
I would have asked her nicely to put her top back on because kids are around or that it is not a nude beach were you were at. I guess i would have done the same but i proably would have slapped her if she got up in my face.
2007-03-08 00:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it seems we're surrounded by idiots, but why do they have to come to the beach? You could have handled it better, and you know it; that's why you're reexamining it here. We can't control the ignorance of others[take road rage, for example] and a physical confrontation is hardly worth it. Thank God it didn't escalate any further. Please explain to your kids that you were wrong to push the woman, even though you had a point. I think even words would have been wasted on someone so clearly wacky, but at best, I would have tried a weak smile in her direction and said something like, "Nice hooters, dear, but you could you put them away in front of my kids? My sons hormones are raging already, and well, you know....something like that. Anything is better than a confrontation. They will likely forget the womans big boobies, but they won't forget how you handled it. You might also just have moved away, farther down the beach, explaining to your kids, that while the human body is very beautiful, we as a society, do not condone public display !
2007-03-08 00:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I would have done more than just pushed the witch! She would be taking a trip to the hospital! But don't the beach have people on patrol? You could have got her kick off the beach or you could have moved to another location. Fighting in front of the kids is never the answer. You don't want them to think it is okay for them to fight people. BUT there are some people out there that you just can avoid that situation. You could talk to you kids about it and see what they got from the whole incident.
2007-03-08 00:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jade 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For one thing, very in appropriate. I probably would have done the same thing right at the spur of the moment, but, yes, there probably is a better way. You could have pointed out nicely to her that she just took her top of in front of your two children and then asked her nicely if she could either put her top back on or move to a different spot on the beach. I don't know why but people tend to acta little differently when given options.
Unfortunately topless is legal these days, so when it comes to us mothers, we have to work harder just to stop our kids from seeing or doing these things. It really sucks!!!
2007-03-08 00:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you could have handled it much better. Do you know the rules of the beach you were at? If there is no rule against nudity you really don't have the right to complain. If there was a rule against it I would have talked to a lifeguard or another beach official and explained to them the situation while reminding them that your intent isn't to get this woman in trouble. It's best to avoid confrontation with anyone in front of kids because they really don't need to see us acting like children ourselves.
2007-03-08 02:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the beach has rules restricting nudity in that way, then she should respect them. Something tells me that a person will the audacity to blatantly break a rule like that isn't going to respond well to someone asking her to cover up. Had it been me, I'd have asked her to cover up. If she refused or got antagonistic, I'd have looked for a beach official or lifeguard to handle the situation. If that didn't help, I'd move my kids out of the line of fire.
2007-03-08 00:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all was the beach a nude beach?...If not I see no reason why this lady should have taken her shirt off...(If it was a nude beach I understand your kids wouldn't have gone with you but no you were in the right that is indecent and your children and boyfriend shouldn't have had to see that nor should you....
2007-03-08 01:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was always told if you dont like your surroundings then remove your self from the situation.i dont feel its right but you have incidents that you wont agree with happen every day,this is how your children learn to handle uncomfortable situations.as far as looking well it caught your attention too.its human to look at things you dont see every day .its amazing as well that some people are so selfish that they dont take children in concideration.public places are just that ,public for all...therefore your beliefs personally have to be wieghed along with everyone elses.im sure she loved the attention you gave her...sounds to me this is what she was after anyway.they main thing is that you teach your children how to handle incidents that offend them,with out conflict.this was a no win situation.no good was going to come out of this by confronting her ,
2007-03-08 00:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by tamey_k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you could have, but that is hind sight... Where I live she would be arrested for indecent exposure unless on a nude beach. Your family shouldn't have to be subjected to that unless you chose for them to be. It was rude of her if this was a public place, but if this beach allows that, maybe next time you should take the kids to another beach.
2007-03-08 00:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by chefck26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never recommend fighting in front of your children, but I can understand you being upset with her exposing herself in front of your young children. I have had teenagers moon us through their car window with my children in the car and it is infuriating! I would have confronted her and asked her politely to put her top back on, and if she refused to comply, I would have gotten someone of authority on the beach to intervene in the situation.
2007-03-08 00:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋