I love my boyfriend so much--he's my first boyfriend, and before we were bf/gf we were good friends for about two years. When I was just friends with him he was loyal, and trustworthy, and a real good friend overall.
He hasn't emailed/contacted me in nine days. (long distance relationship). He didn't even remember our anniversary yesterday. One time he didn't show up at a play when he was supposed to meet me there. My best friend, who is also his friend, told me that I had given him too many second chances, and that I was forgiving him too much. She said that was going to get me in trouble someday and I was going to get hurt. She said to wait until our relationship wasn't long distance (september) or to break up with him b/c he isn't a very good bf.
But I just can't do that, I just like him too much! And I don't know why I can't stop giving him second chances! What can I do to stop liking him and move on or just become more firm with him? I am seeing him on Sat., help me please!!!!
2007-03-08 00:15:24 · 12 answers · asked by horsesareforever 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that when you go see him Saturday, you need to tell him everything that is bugging you and asking him what is up with it. He needs to know that he is causing you pain. And honestly, it may be best to just take a breather from the relationship and see other people until September. It's a long distance relationship and SOMETHING is up with him. Really, you need to make the decision on what is best for you. You need to be happy instead of consitantly worrying about what is going on with your relationship. Good luck!
2007-03-08 00:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off i realized you said at the end of you statement that you like him not love so obviously you have feelings for him but not that deep. The way it sounds to me is yea he might have been a great friend but sweetie not all friends make good boyfriends. And it seems that he's proving it. Just the fact that you know and realize that you've given him many second chances that right there should tell you something. Don't settle just because you "like" alot or just because you've been friends for so long. Personally if you were to end it on good terms then you might have a chance to save the friendship part of the relationship. However if you continue with this back and forth episode and all these second chances and disappointments if does turn out that it ends anyways. You may not have a friendship at all then you end up losing a good friend. Good Luck hope everything works out.
2007-03-08 08:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by h0n3y_l1ps_27 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being too generous in some ways. It seems to me that you give more than you receive. Well, this isn't supposed to be the way if both parties want a relationship to work out. Sat may be a good time to bring up your concern about your relationship with him. Keep your fingers, do not point your finger at him, blaming him for everything. Encourage him to talk things out and what has been bothering him. So you want to stop liking him, but can you do that? If you think this relationship is going nowhere, then call it quit. It all depends on what your expectation is, your dream and your goal in life.
2007-03-08 08:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by superb2dmax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that, first thing first, you need to know exactly how he feels about you and the relationship. How you'll get that info, I don't know. When you do get it, then both of you should be able to decide what you two want to do with your relationship.
You can also tell him, how you feel about the nine days thing, let him know.
I'm in a similar situation, haven't heard from my gf in almost a month, and I contacted her last, no e-mails replied, dunno what's going on....I'm losing hope here though.
2007-03-08 08:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Skitch_™ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's funny. You want help? Go see a psychiatrist about your obvious self esteem problems. That is about the best advice I can give you. Until you love yourself, you can't love anyone else, and no one can really love you.
Long Live Jambi
2007-03-08 08:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i can tell your blinded by love.
i think you should talk to him cuz if you really do love him then you would ask for an explanation.
and you really need to stop forgiving him or then he'll start to think your easy.Dont let him step all over you ok.
2007-03-08 08:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jas[mini-me] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well when it happens to me, i just close all my contacts wid him..then later i make excuses for that but he understands and says a sweet "sorry" need not mention he doesn't do that again.
2007-03-08 08:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should dump this selfish bf of yours...i mean you are worthy of a better friend than him....and i am sure that you can get a better bf who loves you truly....go ahead muster up your courage and dump that sucker!
2007-03-08 08:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by ihate2have2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would break up witrh him as soon as possible he is probaly cheating on you or doesnt like you anymore im a boy i know
2007-03-08 08:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking of him as your boyfriend--you're just dating occassionally.
2007-03-08 08:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by Patricia S 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋