Am I being tested?

Question

I'm in a new relationship with a guy that just moved to Florida. He lived in New Jersey and there was a girl that was making it sound like they were together while we were. I asked him about it and he said he wasn't into her, that she was in love with him and that she wanted to be him. He said he didn't even like her, then told her to leave him alone and stop talking to him and even deleted him off her myspace page. He told me that once he got back to Florida and got his cellphone number switched, he wasn't going to give her the new number or talk to her or anything like that. Well, he's been here almost a month and he has since added her to his page and given her his cellphone number. I know I don't have anything to worry about, but I've been hurt really bad in the past. Am I being tested? I've been hurt A LOT in the past and I don't trust easy, but he has done nothing to make me not trust him. He tells me EVERYTHING. I'm scared my issues will ruin this relationship. Help please!!

I found out that he gave her his number because he sent it to her in a message on myspace and even called it while I was sitting right in front of him. He hides nothing from me, denies nothing and admits to everything.
Before him, I was single for 2 years. The guy that I was with, I had children with, then he just walked away. My current boyfriend does everything with me and my kids, he doesn't keep our relationship hidden from anyone and he is always talking about us and how happy we are. But for some reason, I just can't get past this feeling of no trust with him. I love him...he makes me really happy. But I don't trust him and I really want to. He even wants me and my twins to go back to Jersey with him next month so I can meet everyone up there. So, it's not like I'm a big secret. I know that if I don't change, I'm going to end up losing this relationship, but I'm finding it really hard to not look at him and see my past. That is the biggest issue here....it's all me, not him.

Answer 1

I don't think this is an intentional test. I know how it is to not want to cause a scene. He'll probably deny anything anyhow, whether to spare your feelings, or because he doesn't want you to know. Maybe she is just such a pain in the a**, that he just gave in and gave her the number (and who told you that she has his number? her or him?). Maybe he doesn't even answer when he sees it's her calling. Maybe she said she needed his "help", and he was just being nice. I do not think he is setting you up for a test though. But, I'm sure it feels like your patience and trust are being tested anyhow.