my finacee wants me to stay with me but has promised me that we wont have sex, is it anything wrong to stay.
2007-03-08 00:05:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I find nothing wrong with it even if you want to have sex
2007-03-08 00:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's not wrong. It's not even wrong if you two have sex. I assume you're both mature, responsible adults. It would be foolish to not have sex before you're married. How are you and your fiancee going to know what's pleasurable to one-another if you do not have an open dialogue and an active sexual relationship? Are we to assume you've never had sex? Are we also to assume your fiancee has never had sex? If such is the case, you two need to watch some porno, or sexual instruction videos and practice. Learn what the other likes or doesn't like. Do it now. Don't wait until your wedding night when that magical special moment turns out to be awkward, painful and embarrassing because you're both a couple of n00b newlyweds!
2007-03-08 08:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan on abstaining from sex and stay together, chances are you'll have sex. I'm not saying it will happen for sure, but the chances are very good it will happen.
V said it well, avoid the appearance of sin. I want to add something... if you're well-known in the neighborhood, or if you're well-known at church, then cohabitation will exacerbate a problem for you. However, if you keep a low profile in general, then who's to say that you're creating the appearance of sin? Abstaining from the appearance of sin is so that people won't say "Oh look at so-and-so, s/he's a Christian and s/he cohabitates, so it must be okay." Christians are to be examples. But if no one really knows you, and the ones who do wlil not look up to you, then the appearance of sin is questionable.
Be realistic, human nature is very VERY strong. I'd refuse and stay apart, just to be on the safe side.
2007-03-08 09:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by Dolores G. Llamas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I seems to be a common belief that God will punish actions if we don't do things His way. (Please wait, I have a point that applies to nonChristians as well) The if you...then I statements made in the Bible are about the character displayed by people. If you act with good character it will be blessed because good character reaps good results. If you act with bad character, bad things result.
In your situation you are obviously not comfortable with your fiancee moving in. If he has good character he will understand your feelings and respect them. If he has bad character he will not and you'll know before you commit yourself to marriage. I've known three couples in this same situation. Two are happily married because each respected the other person. One ended in a very ugly divorce after several years of abuse because there was no respect for the ideals of the wife.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-08 09:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by kaehya2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to listen to your conscience. If you are comfortable with it, go. You have to be true to yourself and no one else, even your fiance. By the way, when you are married be sure to continue with that path. Dont let him dictate to you whats right or wrong. Be strong in yourself. This isnt religious advice, as I am not a believer, but advice that I learned in a very hard way in my first marriage.
2007-03-08 08:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by sngcanary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you have made an agreement that there will be no sex before marriage then you have nothing to worry about. But if you trust your fiance, and vice versa, why would you even have this question? Don't ask for permission to live your life!
2007-03-08 08:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by stormzsecret 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's wrong.
"Abstain from all appearance of evil." 1 Thess 5:22
And the temptation will be great. Don't put yourself in the position to fall.
2007-03-08 08:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by V 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont think there is anything wrong in staying with your fiancee before you get married...
2007-03-08 08:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by ihate2have2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why not? I dont think it will end up (just to stay) but hey human nature kicks in...... at least you will know what your up for after you get married......
2007-03-08 08:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Leah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong as long as you do not have sex with him .
2007-03-08 08:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋