I am 34 yrs old and i was watching my 14 yr old nephew for my sister last night cause she went on vacation. one of my good friends was with me and she is the same age. so out of no where while we were swimming in the backyard pool, my nephew asks my friend sherri to "pull her shorts off" so he can see her thing! i almost fell over after i heard him say that! and what does my friend do, but yanks her wet shorts to her knees for like 10 seconds and says to me, "he has to learn somehow!" i was so mad i sent her home and him to his room. only for me stopping them, she would of let him touch it and play with it! what should i say to the both of them because i am so freaked out by the 2 of them right now. where do kids learn this stuff!
2007-03-08 00:04:38 · 6 answers · asked by Lisa girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should tell your friend in no uncertain terms that you did not appreciate her behaviour. Your nephew probably asked her to pull her shorts off because he got the feeling that she would and she did!!
Yes he will learn someday but from someone closer to his own age and not from her. As for kids learning stuff - well you can't really stop them short of keeping them in solitary confinement! They learn from their friends, from the movies they see - and unfortunately from people like your friend. Maybe you should reevaluate your friendship with her. Is she the kind of woman you really want as a friend?
2007-03-08 00:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by reeaita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound more upset by your nephew than your friend. You should expect a 14 year old to be curious about a woman's body. You should be out raged by your friend's reaction. If he tells his parents what happened not only will she have some explaining to do but so would you. I would bet he's seen one before anyway. Now you have to ask yourself what gave him the impression that he could ask and receive such a thing from her? I would wonder if she has shown it to him before. Maybe earlier in the day when she was changing or something. I just can't imagine any teen would have the guts to ask a grown woman for that type of thing. Unless he knew he would get his wish. You should ask him what made him think he could ask her that. I'd also ask her why she would do something like that in your home. Even if she believes "he has to learn some how". She had no right to take it upon herself to teach. She just compromised your relationship with her,your nephew, and his parents. As for where your nephew could have learned something like that I can't really say. I can tell you he learned something he shouldn't have from your friend. Now he will have the impression that he can go around saying vulgar things like that to any female he chooses to and get results. You really need to have a talk with your friend. She is the adult and should have acted as such. I would watch her like a hawk from now on. Not just with young teen aged boys but any man I care about. What she did is considered criminal.
2007-03-08 00:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by quel772o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 34 too or 14? If she's 34, you should find a new "friend". If she's 14....trust me...they learn it from other kids who's parents aren't paying attention...and so on... . A little neighbor girl did that to my son. He ran home and wouldn't tell us why he came home early (she was 7; he was 5), and got really scared that he had been bad. We got to the bottom of it, and told him that wasn't bad, but you don't get naked with someone until you are an adult and no one is forcing or pressuring either person to do that.
2007-03-08 00:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bit of a shock, wasn't it? But in a perfect society, the education of boys at puberty would always be undertaken by such a woman. It would give the kid information other than what he gets behind the shed, and it would make him less likely to foul up his first sexual encounter with a girl, or make her pregnant. Many a girl has suffered terrible shock because of the lack of skill by her first partner. Make it up with your friend, and leave it at that. No harm has been done to anyone but you, it would seem.
2007-03-08 00:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they learn it at school. a lot of public schools are seriously derranged now a days. That's why my mom home schools me--or sends me to a private Christian school. I wish I could tell you what to say to them but really, that's up to you. Tell your friend you were disappointed in her for doing that, and tell your sister what happened. Then talk to your nephew about it.
2007-03-08 00:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by horsesareforever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she did is indecent exposure and she could go to jail for it. You probably should talk to your sister about what happened, it is her child.
Regardless of the requests of a 14 year old boy she is an adult and it is her responsibility to make appropriatte decisions.
2007-03-08 00:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋