We've been together 3 years and i just cant show affection like normal girlfriends, he siad i do everything else but its just i never do anything passionate or make the first move? I've tried but i just can't see the signs he makes that he wants attention..we've had a huge fallin out this mornin about it and he's even said its got to the point where he doesnt no if we should just call it a day coz he feels unloved...I've tried huggin kissin him but apperently thats not good enough what the hell am i doin wrong? this mornin he was stretchin his neck out as we lay there and i didnt even get wot he was doin then he went mad after 5 mins sayin u could of showed sum affection by kissin my neck or doin sumthing but u just lay there Mayb im just a idiot?
2007-03-07 23:50:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems he wants you to make him feel wanted and loved, is he giving you the same, maybe he wanted you to make love this morning and wanted you to make love, listen you are not psychic, you can't read his mind what he wants, i know what you mean, you not making the first move, i am like that, it seems he is picking on you, he feels insecure, for goodness sake what does he want, you sitting on his lap all day, tell him to throw his dummy away, he seems an attention seeker, does he show you affection, if you feel you are not doing anything wrong, then don't worry you are not an idiot, you do what you feel is right.
2007-03-08 00:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men want sex. Its one of the things that is common amongst all men.
When a partner doesn't give him sex, or show interest in sex with him, it makes him feel like he's just there to pay the bills. Like he's not a real man, like he isn't wanted.
The most important thing is that the sex should be initiated by the woman. This proves that she finds him attractive and fit to mate with.
Maybe men are childish and stupid for thinking this way, but a woman wanting sex from her man makes the man feel needed and alive. Not wanting sex makes him feel like he just rents a room in the house.
So if you want this man, make a move. Kiss him passionately when he's least expecting it.
I do think he's being unreasonable by flying off the handle and demanding this from you. He should be talking to you about this reasonably, not throwing a tantrum
2007-03-08 08:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by The Overfiend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him make you feel pressured to do things you are comfortable with.
Tell him, he needs to set you an example and that if he is loving, it will become natural to you eventually.
You are not an idiot, if you are unhappy with this treatment of you, take the lead and call it a day. You deserve so much better.
xx
2007-03-08 08:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are not communicating your needs clearly to one another. Couples counseling might help, or maybe you'll discover this isn't the perfect match. (Your posting is difficult to read without adequate punctuation and spelling).
2007-03-08 07:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds insecure and immature.
You should just do what you feel. If it doesn't suit him, find someone who isn't so self absorbed.
2007-03-08 07:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by bookfreak2day 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
noooo, you are fine, maybe he is wanting too much attention.
2007-03-08 07:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we're all different!
2007-03-08 07:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by roadtripman90 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋