I am already dealing with the fact that my freshly divorced parents are sitting on the top table now i appear to have another problem. When asking the best man who he'd like his girlfriend to sit with familiy of friends, he stated that she WILL be sitting on the top table with me. He then got his mum to tell me too! They haven't been together for that long and i'm worried that my wedding photos will have someone in that doesnt mean anything to me. What should I do??
2007-03-07 23:44:35 · 31 answers · asked by Miss Sunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tell him that the head table is for the wedding party and since no one else in the wedding party is having someone that they are in a relationship with (other than you and your new hubby) sitting with them it would not be appropriate. She'd stick out like a sore thumb so to speak. Also let him know that in future be a man and leave mum out of it! If he will not be detered from having his girlfriend with him then let him know how much the reception is costing and once he ponys up the money to pay for it then he can decide seating arrangements!
Or you can ignore it all together and just not have a place at the head table for her the day of and have a place card with her name on it at another table.
Good luck!
2007-03-07 23:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by cookie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a immature jerk! This is YOUR day not his and no, his girlfriend should not be sitting at the head table. The head table should only hold the wedding party. It would be one thing (I think) if they were in a long term relationship but, even that should not be playing in a part here. Maybe it's time your soon to be better half deal with him and not you OR find a new bestman.
2007-03-07 23:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by nthernlites40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should consider a sweetheart table and let all of your bridal party sit with family or friends...I don't feel the best man has the right to make any demands...his job is to make the day as stress free as possible for both the bride and groom, not to cause drama. If you want a head table, let him know that none of your bridal party (including him) will be allowed a guest at the table. If he doesn't like it, choose someone else as the best man. Obviously your feelings are not important to him.
2007-03-08 03:55:17 · answer #3 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, only the members of the wedding party sit at the head table. This doesn't usually even include parents of the bride and groom. They are usually given their own table close to the head table in a place of honor. I say that its your wedding, you already have to deal with enough pressure from your parents. Don't let anyone push you around. If you don't stand up for yourself over something as simple as the seating arrangement, the rest of the wedding plans are only doomed to go the same way. If the best man can't be mature enough to accept that you can't have thirty people sitting at the head table, and its your wedding and you don't even know this chick that well, then maybe your relationship with him needs to be reevaluated anyway. No one should be so childish over someone else's special day. Kudos to you for trying to be diplomatic, but at some point you have to put your foot down and say enough is enough. You can't please everyone.
2007-03-08 01:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, WOW! he Demands?! First of all, he should feel privileged to be in your wedding. His job is to help you, make sure you get there on time, and to help you with planning. He doesn't get to demand anything. He may ask but that is it. If he has a problem with your choice, then he can back out of the wedding. This is a stress full and wonderful day and shouldn't be complicated with issues like that. Just explain to him how you feel, gently. and that is how it is going to be. You are absolutely right in your concerns about having someone in the picture. Plus only family members and those that are special to the BRIDE and GROOM sit at the head table, not people special to those in the bridal party. I wish you well, and hope this helps. CONGRATS!!
2007-03-08 02:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is your wedding and you make the seating arrangements and if he doesn't like it too bad. It is not appropriate for his girlfriend to sit at the main table with you and your husband and bridal party. Then all the other members of the bridal party can ask the same too. She should sit on one of the main tables on the best man's family table. Your fiance should really get involved in this dispute because it is his best man, and he should tell him that it is not right for him to insist and he is making alot of trouble and giving alot of stress to you. Let him handle it...I think that the best man will end this stupid demand once your fiance tells him off. That is the way to handle it.
2007-03-09 11:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How big is your head table? Most tables only hold 8!
If you do it for him, in the interest of fairness, you have to do it for EVERYONE. I've never EVER been to a wedding where I sat at the head table and not been in the party!
I HAVE, however been to weddings were I got to eat before the reception with the bridal party (because my husband was in the wedding). In fact, at my own wedding, we (the bridal party) arrived at the reception hall early and ate before the guests arrived. I invited the significant others who weren't in the party to join us as well. That way, they could eat with their significant others, and when the reception started, their guests weren't left "alone" while the bridal party ate, and it worked out really well. I don't know how you've planned your reception, but it's something to consider.
In any case, I would say to just put your foot down. A table can only accommodate so many, and that's that.
Best wishes!!
2007-03-08 01:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the girls persons does not sit down on the table while dinner is served, then needless to say there's a concern with the marriage and there's a competent probability, that she sits on the counter for concern of being hit back or having something thrown at her or she sits there because of the fact it positioned her nearer to the door, could she might desire to "go out, degree left" (get it). yet one extra reason, possibly the husband is so controlling and is no longer use to having women persons or a female in his presence jointly as he consume. maximum pink necks exhibit this sort of habit. this sort of habit is comparable to while a guy sit down and watch television, then pass gas as though he's the only one there and if the spouse Say's something, she get smacked around the realm of the top and dragged into the hallway and beat with the business company end of a buggy whip or compelled fed a collection of leather-based knuckles.
2016-09-30 09:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no. Only the married couple and the bridal party sits up there. No parents should be up there either; they have their own tables called the "family head tables," which are the closest tables to the head table. The girlfriend can sit somewhere else. It is going to look very wierd to have a bunch of other people who are not the bridal party sitting up there.
2007-03-08 01:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The top table is supposed to be reserved for immediate family and very close firends. I would say she could sit there if she was the girlfriend of your brother or your finaces brother.
If it were me and some jerk told me that I would puposely put her somewhere in the back or at the kids table to to prove the point that is my wedding and nobody especially when i am paying for can tell me what I can and cant do for my wedding.
2007-03-08 02:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋