My wife and I have been having some issues for years ( I wont go into detail) and she says she's ready to change. She is going away for a long weekend without me and I really dont trust that she is being honest about her plans. I know she will be spending the weekend with a man. She says no sex will happen and he is helping her with self awareness and things like that. She says that when she returns that she will be ready to make a fresh start and things will start to get better. I've told her how much this "trip" hurts me but she says she has to do it to put alot of things behind her. I suppose I'm just looking for some spiritual words of wisdom and the strenth to do what I know I have to do about my marriage.
2007-03-07 23:44:07 · 13 answers · asked by seasonedhusband 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
She does not need to go away to straighten things out. You need to be together and talk. She knows how bad it hurts you, and yet she's still going? What's up with that? She's totally not taking your feelings into consideration. I don't want to make you feel bad, but it sounds like she doesn't care at all about this marriage. Do you have any children, and what do they think about all of this?
I think it's so important that you both involve God in your lives. Give all your problems to Him and let Him straighten it out. It's really the only way out. Love, kindness, patience, trust, understanding, compassion, and communication are the main things that both of you should have toward one another. If you don't go to church, then find one. My wife and I and both my girls go every week. We have christian friends who help us stay on track. Pray and read your bible. I wish you well.
2007-03-08 00:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by Unshaken Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her why this "trip" must be made with a man? Why not a woman?You have a reason not to trust. I am a Christian and I also am an adult Sunday School teacher.This just does not sound right and you can tell her I said so! I can tell you that I have never ever heard of a man and married woman taking a trip together for spirtual reasons!
2007-03-07 23:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust your wife because she has given you no reason to think she can be trusted. I would say that, rather than running off for the weekend with another man to 'set things straight', she needs to be discussing with you ways in which you can both work to make your marriage a success. In my opinion, marriage counseling is in order.
My apologies for being blunt.
2007-03-07 23:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by iamnoone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's my spiritual words of wisdom that you asked for - she's lying to you. When she says things will get better when she returns, she means once she divorces you after her 'enlightening' weekend with another man.
I wouldn't let my wife do that. Who wears the pants in your house?
2007-03-07 23:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by Child 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be a slim chance what your wife is telling you is true....but....chances are not.... sounds more like one last fling. She should be asking you to help her with self awareness ect not some one else. Your already part of the way there to doing something about your marriage, just keep you eyes open and good luck!
2007-03-07 23:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by Leah 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, why are you posting this here?
Second, the marriage is over. Understand that and act accordingly.
Use this weekend away from her to look for a new apartment.
2007-03-07 23:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by Yoda Green 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her to enjoy the rest of her life because if she went off with another man there would be no need of coming back
2007-03-07 23:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why on earth with another man.sounds to me like its make or break with this bloke and you're the consolation if it doesnt work
2007-03-07 23:48:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow her ! lol if u really dont believe her follow her and when she did tell u the truth u can feel like the biggest as$ in the world or when she does then u can pop out and say "HA I GOT YOU!" so either way it works out!
2007-03-07 23:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by ~*cRaCkNeSs*~ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My husband would tell me go if you want, but just keep going.
2007-03-07 23:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by nancy jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋