2007-03-07 23:24:18 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you feel okay with it and are sure nothing will change with the two of you then why not?
2007-03-07 23:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to do first is to recognize if her dad is a responsible parent. If he is then I would think about why she wants to go. If she just doesn't want to abide by your rules and feels that dad is a pushover then I personally feel that you would be allowing her to get into the habit of manipulation. If it's just that she is having a hard time with the seperation of her two parents then I would definitely consider letting her go. Seperation is hard on the children. Just try to work with dad on shared responsibilites and if you both try to be a big part of her life I think her chances are really good at growing up a happy child no matter who she is living with.
2007-03-08 08:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Laura C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends, in part, on why she wants to live with him. IF it’s because Dad will let her watch TV until 2 AM, not make her do her homework, never make her follow any rules, etc, then NO, you shouldn’t let her. And I find that often that’s why young children want to live with the other parent—because they think the other parent will be less strict. And sometimes that's true...but it's not good for kids to have no rules and little supervision.
So, the first thing you need to ask is WHY does she want to move in with him?
2007-03-08 09:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard question, why do she want to go ,and what kind of situation is her dad in,if all is well do a month with her dad and let can make up your mind from their,many times kids who have parents living in different house holds ,the absent
parent becomes the hero ,they get the kid on weekend or holidays and spend there time letting the child get away with things they don't at home,you become the discipline parent while the absent parent is the hero let the kid get away with everything, buying, and getting away with whatever.
2007-03-08 07:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 14 and lived with my dad. it was hard at first cause i wanted my mum around for girl parts in my life. I would let her go if she really wants but also be there for her tough time as a young lady growing up but also make sure she knows your door is always open if she wants to come back. But its always a good way for kids to know if they say things they don't mean it might come true. just see how it goes and be there for her.
2007-03-08 08:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by Carmel L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does dad say about this? Have you discussed it with him? Do you think he'll make a good lone parent? Has he the time and the inclination? I don't think a 9 year old can make this sort of decision without a lot of careful consideration.
2007-03-08 07:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by jet-set 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At nine years old, it's hard for your daughter to be able to see the big picture. You must think of what is best for her, not what would make her happy in the short run.
If her father is a good parent, and can provide for her as well as you can, try it....If you have ANY doubt, be strong and do what is right for her....Parenting isn't a popularity contest....thank God.
Good luck.
2007-03-08 07:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Wraith95 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a friend of mine had this from her daughter a few years ago and coz she wanted her daughter to be happy she said yes if thats what you want and if you want to come back to me you can, well the father filled the girls head with all sorts and now she's back home with her mum and is a total moo, she's now 14 and her mum has very little control over her coz the girl was told by her father her mum didn't want her, so if you do let your girl go then please let her know you still love her very much and only want her to be happy.
2007-03-11 18:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by LJM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it is up to you and her father. you should both talk things through and decide together after all she is only 9. i think that she misses her dad and thinks by living with him she will see him all the time. however is she ends up living with him after awhile she will most likely want to live with you again, cause she will then start to miss you. it hard not having your parents living together its almost like being torn apart cause you don't know who to live with. you and her father make the decision at the end of the day not your daughter she is to young.
2007-03-08 10:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask her why she wants to live with her dad. Does she have good reasons to want to go? If yes and he is willing to take her first do a trail basis say he has her friday night to sunday night. Discuss what is behind her wanting to live with him, try to see if you can work out a solution that works best for everyone. Maybe she misses him and wants to spend more time with him.
2007-03-08 07:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is too young to be left with her father alone. whether she is her father's pet or not.
reasons
if her father is a busy person, he will not have the time to see what she does and what is happening to her.
if her father is not a desiplinarian, it may be deficult, as every of her action and attitude will be pleasing to the father
if the father is staying with another woman, let it be known to you that your daughter may not find it easy.
her father may not give her the best of parental care she required and as you may wish to give her.
there are lots of things to considered.
so every thing depends on how you want your child to be trained.
even the bible says 'train up a child the way he/she should go and when he/she grow he/she will not depart from it'.
2007-03-09 08:10:31 · answer #11 · answered by babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋