I love him so much but want more attention!!!?

Question

My boyfriend of 3years is thh best thing thats ever happened to me - we work together and always want to spend time together, and considering we spend so much time together we don't argue much! He works really hard all day and i get jome from work before him so i always make sure that his teas ready and i've walked and fed the dogs and a bath ready for him - he appreciates this and i love doing it for him! We talk about our future all the time, marriage, children, weve lived together for 2years over. I just would like a bit more attention sometimes - cuddles - kissing - sex is great and often, i hate to keep on asking him becasue he is always tired in the evenings i just want a good snog now and again were both in our early 20's - any advice? lol

He does alot for me - he works earlier than i do - leaves at 5:30 and i don't have to leave till 8 and he still gets up to go and feed MY horses in the mornings so i get extra sleep, he cooks for me on weekends too, and breakfast in bed ! He didn't have anything to do with horses before he met me and he even mucks out now and again!!!

Answer 1

Hate to blow your day? But some guys, just aren't that openly emotional. He MAY? Once times goes on? But it's not a guarantee. "For Better. Or Worse". That's how we should even look at Relationships. He's not using you? Or going out on you. You've got it, far better than most Young Ladies. You better keep him. And be glad of who you do have.
Congrats on being in Real Love.

Answer 2

Hi

Its normal amongst relationships, but he has to do some exercise, and cut the dairy products in his diet, its true, i am serious, i did , and labido was great, also i used to feel like that, i wanted a snog etc, but what happens over time, is people lose interest, in things they used to do. Solution:

Do activitie on the weekend!, it will help, like: sauna booking for two, spa for two, camping out iwth another couple etc maybe.

But to be honest with you most of my girlfrineds have been always gymn goers, and after a good workout it gets the labido going, even if you jof everyday in summer etc, or 3 times a week in winter etc, it helps, trust me, it gets the labido going, hormones , his hormones are taking a rest.

This site will epxlain allot, and help you, the page i give you below has the excat same problem, sex related, between husband and wife:

http://womentodaymagazine.com/relationships/husbandnosex.html

I expect your self esteem to go through the roof once you two start doing some exercise etc, and activities together, working together can be bad, maybe one of need sto work elsewhere, and thats a fact.

Good luck with your relationship, and make sure you dont give him too much tea, green tea is bad, black tea bags are good for the system.


One final suggestion my wife did it to me:
She put viagra tablets, disolved in my tea, (herbal tea) tasted nice, this will get the blood going, rushing to your body etc.

Also make sure he doesnt: masturbate, if the tea thing works i am happy for you!

Either way i hope you take some action, dont try too hard, it will get you down, it takes 2 hand sto clap, so he needs to put some input.

Think woman: activities activities.

Maybe some good movies, he enjoys with love scenes, also your hiding, he must be getting the message, that you want, and he doesnt, so check on him if flirts and chest etc.

And his freinds what they are like etc.

Answer 3

I'd play a bit more hard to get. I know you think you're being nice always having his bath ready etc, but you are making a rod for your own back, in the end he'll take it for granted & he'll treat you like his slave. What does he do for you? A relationship should be equal. You shouldn't have to ask your boyfriend for attention, he should give it to you whether he's tired or not. You are both still young so of course you just want a good snog now & again. Start telling your boyfriend what you want, if you don't you won't get it! Good luck.

Answer 4

Why not just snog him?

The fact that you get everything ready for him to come is lovely but it shows him that you are 100% committed, which means to him, that its pointless making a effort and he has just got lazy.

Let me ask you, are you willing to spend every day of the rest of your life, running him a bath? Please, keep this as a special treat and stop being so willing to please him.

Start getting out more, and just let him know that you are not always available. So then when you do spend time together and you maybe spoil him with a bath etc, he will feel more special and will be more appreciative and affectionate.

Trust me, this works.

xx

Answer 5

Well when he gets home why not be waiting in the bath for him? Buy some new sexy underware either with him or as a surprise. You dont have to wait for him to kiss you, you can kiss him. But at the end of the day allot of men (not all) including my fiance wont make and effort unless its a special occasion or they are told/or pursuaded to.
If I want more attention of my fiance I find suddenly appearing in sexy underware usually gets a good reaction.
My best advice would be to just have a bit of a word with him saying something like. I love you so much but can I have a few more kisses cause my lips are getting cold. If you say it in a bit of a cute way like that then he wont be made to feel bad and you get what you want.
Good luck

Answer 6

I cant belive that u pour his bath for him and other things as well , i get the feeling that he doesn't respect u cos u are acting as though u are his mother or slave .Try and find some thing for yourself like a hobbi or time for yourself and show him that u are not his puppy dog . maybe once u start to enjoy yourself and he sees that u are not running around after him he may start to realise that if he doesn't change his ways he will lose u .

Answer 7

Sounds like he spoils you! Don't say anything but whenever you fancy a cuddle or a kiss - surprise him! Come up behind him and nibble on his neck or something then turn him round for a lovely big kiss!

Simple and easy and both makes you feel great and loved :)

Answer 8

i think you would feel better if u could get away for a weekend or a holiday get some mags or look on the net and show them to him so he can ask work for some time off some where nice and quiet xx have fun it will make you closer than ever xx good luck

Answer 9

for one you have spoiled him, you draw his bath? come on this is the year 2007 not 1950.
Find something to do after work for a few days and see if the favor of everything you do is returned.

Answer 10

i'm a Libra and that i HATE interest! it is so stressful. i'm so quiet in college, that if it wasn't for the on an well-known basis attendance, i could depend absent well-known. no person notices me or something. i'm that Libra which could no longer talk up many of the time for herself. It sucks massive time.