I have noticed people with good childhoods having troubles adapting to the cruel world. They also don't seem to be enjoying what they have. And people with bad childhoods (whatever the cause which doesnt have to be necessarily evil, poverty etc) adapting well to troubles and sometimes enjoying what they have more. What do you think?
2007-03-07 22:51:24 · 11 answers · asked by wcarolinew 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i think if you had a bad one you always want to make things better
2007-03-07 22:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. For the reasons you say, that they see the worst and try to live better. There are also alot of people with bad childhood that have become serial killers, molesters, rapists, thieves, have phsycological problems etc etc etc.
Could also be from a good childhood too but not as likely.
A person that has has a good childhood may be troubled more when bad days come around but they can have the option to adapt.
I dont think thought that its BETTER for a person not to have good memories from their childhood.
Depends on what kind of person you are I think.
2007-03-08 07:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by chiara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have noticed that people who had good childhoods have trouble adapting (after they get out) in the (cruel?) world.
No I don't think it has to do with good or bad childhoods. Because I don't believe the quality of a person's childhood can be judged from the outside - like judging a book from it's cover.
What you judge as a good childhood from where you sit looking at the outside - might be painful on the inside to the person living in it.
It sounds like you're talking about a spoiled childhood - where a child was given an abundance of everything but love.
It seems to be true that people who had 'less' growing up have an easier time adjusting and enjoying what they have.
2007-03-08 07:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by birdwatcher 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Stereotypically, persons with bad childhoods can adapt better to difficult lifestyles. Not saying that there aren't those that had great childhoods that could do the same. But, humans are creatures of habit and many persons that had bad childhoods recreate chaos in their lives because it "feels normal." Persons that have a very limited exposure to stress, chaos, or tragedy have a harder time empathizing with those that feel they comfortable around it.
2007-03-08 07:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by peachtool 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then there are people with bad childhoods who end up using it as an excuse to stay depressed, become drug addicts, under achieve ect. and the people with good childhoods who learned mental health through observation and carry it on throughout adulthood.
So, what do I think? It really depends. There are a large number of factors that come into play here. The terms 'good' and 'bad' to describe childhood are too broad to use in forming a comprehensive understanding of what makes a mentally healthy and sucessful adult.
2007-03-08 07:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it depends on the individual, their support network, influences etc. Some people who suffered a bad childhood go off the rails as they dont know how to cope, others use it to turn their lives around and make sure that they can give their best to their own children. I guess it just depends on the support you have and your own sense of character and morality.
2007-03-08 07:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is what you choose to to with your life when you get old enough to decide what you choose and the way you act and respond in life... so when you reach the age that you can decide which seems to be the age of 18. then i would say its all up to you what you choose and the choices you make that defines what and who you are or become...
2007-03-08 07:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each person has his own circumstances. Childhood is such a delicate phase of life that even small things can really affect you very deeply.So nothing can be said in general.
2007-03-08 07:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Mooch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that no matter what kind of upbringing you've had life is exactly what you make of it. I had a great childhood until I turned teen then I made it hell. Did it to myself but I think my life is ok.
2007-03-08 07:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is what you make it.
It is just like getting colds. If you go to day care and get lots of colds early on, you build immunity and will be sick less later on.
You may have to build you immunity to the world.
2007-03-08 07:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by anoldwomanlivinginashoe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋