i have a question. it's about anyone who is infected with a disease(whatever it may be) that is contractable.

Question

if you have 'anything' or know of someone that has a contractable disease, or even a possibility of one.
do ,then, before they start a realationsip with someone get tested and show the person that they are planing on having said relationship with the tests?
i would think that they would want to provide any information that they could about their condition.
especially to one they plan on having a physical relationship with.
is that not important to the people with said condition? and is it wrong of prospective date to demand answers before they enter relationship?

i hope you can find the questions in there.
i guess what it all comes down to is if i had someting that could, even slightly, make a person ill, i would want to set their mind at ease. wouldn't you?

Answer 1

This is a moral question.

Personally speaking, I have herpes. I do not hide the fact I have herpes to ANYONE that comes to my home. While its a very slight chance (1%) that they could contract herpes while visiting, I still feel they have the right to know. I also provide bleach wipes in my bathroom so they can wipe the toilet seat themselves.

I honestly believe that ANYONE entering a relationship should be HONEST and come clean about anything they might have before becoming intimate with a prospective mate.
Relationships should be built on honesty and trust. Anyone that would knowingly give any disease to a mate, without alerting them first to the potential dangers should be criminally charged. I believe it should be illegal to knowingly pass on anything that would provide a medical danger to another.

I also do not believe its wrong for a prospective mate to demand answers. I believe it can be done without being nasty about it...yet I believe we all have the right to know what we're walking into when we start a relationship.

Answer 2

For most ladies it is important to know such things yes. For most guys, it is just important to have sex at any opportunity. Developing a relationship is secondary. So don't feel badly about bringing up the subject, it is your right to know. He should be concerned as much as you are, he may be concerned, but it is not top concern. If he(or she) is not open to answering your question, move on.... he/she isn't worth the time or effort.