I'm 23 year old female and have been married for 5 months. My husband is 35. Im currently doing an Advanced Diploma Program and I hope to get in to a degree program next year (I'm kind of a late starter I guess!)anyways I really want to get a good education. But at the same time I want to have a family and my husband also loves to have children. I dont know whether to continue with my studies ( as I've heard that it's really difficult to have a child and still do your studies.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
2007-03-07 22:34:39 · 8 answers · asked by sapphire_wisdom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yeah it's true that I have plenty of time to have a baby. But my Hubby is 35, would it be fair by him?
2007-03-07 23:07:38 · update #1
Been there, done that! Yes, it is extremely hard because you have to be a full-time mom, a full-time student, and still have to find the time to spend with your husband. The whole thing is very stressful, both personally and to your marriage. Wait until you are done with school or just make the decision to be a mom and not worry about college. I was in college and had two children. I worked very hard and stayed under a lot of stress. One day, I realized the effect it was having on my children. They were miserable having to go to the part-time daycare program and they started showing undesirable behaviors due to it...like whining, excessive crying and fussiness, trouble sleeping. So, that is when I made the decision to drop out of school (even though I was a Senior) and be a full-time mom. I was able to do this because I knew my husband could financially support us solely on his income. I have NEVER regretted that decision. I love spending every day with my children.
2007-03-08 01:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are absolutely right.. Your hubby is 35 and it's time to have children for him, is he supportive of your studies? my guess is yes. You will make it work the both of you, because he understand that you want to continue your studies but at the same time give him the children that he wants and deserve and I think that is beautiful!!! is going to be hard you know that but hey nothing is impossible where there is a will there is a way. good luck hon.God bless your family.
2007-03-08 08:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've heard correctly. It is not impossible, but it is VERY hard to raise a child and get an education. However, a lot depends on your husband and how willing he will be to deal with the baby so you can have quiet time to study and do work. Good luck.
2007-03-08 06:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by jingles 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be very tough to do both. It's not like you are close to 40 or anything. You have plenty of time to have children, you are only 23. Finish you studies now, and have a baby when you are done. You really do have plenty of time for children.
2007-03-08 07:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by bostonchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is possible! although it will be hard for you since you have more responsibilities to attend to but if you are really willing to continue studying, then there will be no problem. You just have to know how to prioritize things and everything will be okay but this kind of situation is really discouraged because it will be really hard on your part but if the baby is already there, what else can you do? Just continue studying for the future of the both of you.
2007-03-08 06:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by pink Panda 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is possible to do studys while carrying a child your only pregnant that has nothing to do with your thinking unless your having problems go for it good luck
2007-03-08 06:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by verlie p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard but not imposible .Important U should have d passion 4 both.
2007-03-08 06:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by sherry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it will be hard, but if you have your mind set to do it I am sure you will.
2007-03-08 09:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋