2 weeks ago I recieved great answers re:10yr nightmare about bf claiming to suffer from ed while cheating the whole time.Since then I haven't gotten better at all.Infact I feel like I could die every time I wake up!How come he was sexual w/all of those other girls,but not with me for over 6yrs?I feel so awfully stupid and very unattractive.Now I find myself really wanting him to want me?Am I disgusting?Crazy?Or Both?I waited for him thinking he'd get better,and all the while it was just a lie and I was just w/o! I think I'm so confussed that I'm about to loose my mind!!! Instead of sticking to my guns,and leave him so that I can start over,I'm scared to death w/o his cash support that I can't make it,not to mention that now I feel like something's wrong w/me and no man will ever want me.Even though I've really been happy alone before, and mostly alone in this 10yr lie,I'm scared to death.HELP PLEASE!!!
2007-03-07 22:16:55 · 15 answers · asked by Landslide 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not easy to help you - what can one say. You need counselling - and repeat to yourself 100 times a day. "I am an attractive human being". But definately dump him - he is a liar and a cheat. You can do it on your own - just take one step forward at a time. Don't let him destroy your life.
2007-03-07 22:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to commit, he is not emotionally available. Is he holding a gun to your head hun, because you said he won't let you go?. Walk out the door!!
Many people fear being alone even if they have been before for many years but there is someone out there that will treat you the way you deserve. If you are already feeling like no man would want you then it just might be that your man as already got you right where he wants, in his controling hands.
I can understand the money issues but living alone and supporting ourselves alone is no easy task, it might be very hard but you have to weigh the advantages to it. Getting away from someone who is causing you great harm "emotionally" is the greatest advantage you can give yourself!!
Toxic people have a way of keeping you around while destroying you emotionally, mentally and even sometimes physically.
2007-03-08 06:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, if you're not happy with your life then you'll never be. So, sooner or later you'll take the decision to leave. Why not do it right now!! If you don't prefer so, then you'll be wasting part of your life for??!! Maybe be you've got the answer cuz I don't. Life is always changing, and you'll never know what comes tomorrow. So, why you're trying to expect the unexpectable, just do what what feel you should be doing. Cheers...
2007-03-08 06:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by wbahgat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get out of it you have become dependant on him and that is not a good situation because now if he breaks up with you you would go crazy you need to get a good paying job and move out and be on your own you will meet someone else your b/f is a scumbag to treat you that way and what is worse he could give you an STD because of him sleeping with other people dump him befoe its to late..
2007-03-08 06:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has got you feeling like you're going to die if you don't leave his cheating ***?
Calm yourself down and focus on what has to be done instead of obsessing on the relationship (or lack of relationship). You might be depressed and need medical help to get over it. I would speak to your doctor and maybe see a counselor if you really feel like you are going crazy over this.
2007-03-08 06:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you rather live and be content and live with a lie because you are afraid to step out alone? You'll find a better and nicer and truer love but, not where you are at. Quit arraigning chairs on a sinking ship.....either he straightens up or you ship out. I'm not saying it'll be easy.but, you will be happier. It's better to be poor and homeless than live a life of misery with money
2007-03-08 06:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relying on a man who's totally unreliable 'cos you'r scared only spells more trouble. You need to get your self confidence back. So seek counselling. Good luck.
2007-03-08 06:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to let go and be self independent. You're too used to him thus the fear of being alone again. So long as you're willing to mix around there are plenty of people out there. Pluck up your courage and do what you have to do.
2007-03-08 06:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on, honey! Dig yourself out of this situation and move on. If you have to get another job, do it. You're just using the guy for money and he's using you for convenience. Just tell him you're done...and get your resume in order. It's a small price to pay for self-esteem. Godloveya.
2007-03-08 06:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.First of all i want u to calm ur self.Pls don't say that boys won't want u.I am a boy too.Boys don't pay attention to the girls who have lost their self-confidence.If u didn't deserve this world god hadn't created u at all.So i want u to feel as if nothing has happened.Thanks
2007-03-08 06:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋