...help. My sister in law was very angry with me for contacting CPS and told me to call them back and tell them everything is fine and sided with my brother. She did not do this out of fear. She wanted to pretend that everything was normal in her household even after I had seen the abuse going on with every visit. And those visits took place mostly on birthdays celebrations and holiday. (See part II which was placed automatically under Politics and Government - Law and Ethics).
2007-03-07 21:59:18 · 13 answers · asked by BB 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I would imagine that fear did play a part in her response to you, if not her, then who? She is probably afraid that her husband would suspect that she reported him to the officials. If this is your brother... I can imagine how difficult it would be to CONVICT your brother of a CRIME. However, you've come to a point where you must ask yourself ... "am I doing the right thing?" Of course you would be in the eyes of people who don't know you. Is the child especially rude? Then, maybe the best way would be to have a serious talk with the parents and do your best to improve the way they raise their child, WITHOUT EVER USING THOSE WORDS. You do not want an abusive man to think that you are telling him how to raise his child, this will just conjure anger in him and he may block whatever else you have to say, out. Just say that they have a snotty kid, and you want to help make their lives better, as well as the child's.
Okay, I just read parts 1&2, and it seems your brother has issues with abuse. This is what I feared most. It is an extremely difficult situation for you to be in. As his brother, I believe it is your responsibility to talk to him and find a way to have him apologize to his child. As strange as this may sound, this could end up being the most beautiful thing you may ever witness. Tell your brother about his problem, (or simply suggest it, not to make him feel... stupid) and force him to feel the guilt of years of abuse. Buy 2 bottles of wine (if you guys drink) and talk it out. I know you feel guilty, but something like this cannot be solved in a way that you will like if your brother has to go to jail for abuse.
Most importantly, for the sake of the child, have him say sorry, that he HAD a problem and that he will do anything to help his child improve his self-esteem. Tell your brother to help him with his child's homework, and help him give his child every chance to become sharper. If that was the child's only F, then he definitely has the ability to become a top notch student. All he needs is the love of his family and support from his father.
I hope you will consider my suggestions and help this child become the best man that he can possibly be. The years of abuse may be a disguised blessing, and out from years in the dark, he may grow to become a great man. Good luck, and be strong.
2007-03-07 22:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by Pneurbies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all good for you for making that first call second you should do more to ensure that the children are safe. I don't believe you can recant a call to CPS after it has been made. If I was you I would call the police and see if they can help get those children out of that house maybe they could stay with some family else where anywhere but where they are now. Your brother disgusts me if I was in your shoes my husband would have been there in 30 seconds to make sure that the children came home with me even though I love my brother if he turned into that he would not be welcome to see his kids or me or my kids nothing. He would be lucky if my husband didn't beat the crap out of him! I can't believe this has gone on for so long and nothing has been done I really feel for your nephew I hope it gets better for him and your brother either gets help or gets the hell away from them forever! No father is better than a father like that
2007-03-08 06:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by ShaunaMo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its my thought that about is everyone's business. If you see it and say nothing you are just as bad as the perpetrator. By not saying anything you would be saying that the behavior is OK and should continue on. Being that its family you could have engaged it in another route. By issuing an ultimatum stating that either the abuser seeks professional help or that you will contact CPS. What you did was appropriate you are looking out for the best interest of the child. CPS will do an investigation if they find wrong doing then you were correct in reporting it. If they find nothing wrong guess what you're still right in what you did.
2007-03-07 22:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jeremy C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing by calling CPS. You have a right to be concerned and if your sister in law wants to live in denial, then she needed the wake up call. You did nothing wrong. Abuse is no matter to be discarded or overlooked. Thank you for being a concerned family member. Most families these days don't care. I'm glad to see there is someone out there who is concerned enough to do something about a problem. We need more people like you. The only time something like that bothers me is when someone calls them on me and lies to them. But I've seen wherre you had no reason to lie. You're a wonderful person.
2007-03-08 01:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by jean d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grandfather didnt help, because of the fact he grew up in an era, the place his dad in all probability whipped him with a belt and beat him, and it grew to become into seen the norm. I dont understand precisely how lots of what befell is the fact and how undesirable it genuinely grew to become into, however the youngster has to locate in some thank you to do extra effectual. i'm no longer condoning baby abuse in any respect, yet whether he has gaining expertise of problems, he could be getting help from a instruct, or be put in slower training. Dont freak out first. touch the father, your brother, and see what the placement is. I genuinely have seen numerous solutions that are thoroughly freaking out. baby abuse corresponding to this or perhaps worse has been occurring for hundreds of years. 2 abuses in 7 years isn't undesirable. in basic terms talk on your brother, talk on your nephew, and locate out the genuine tale.
2016-09-30 09:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing! If you didn't stand up and speak out for your nephew than who would? No child should have to Indore such abuse from anyone. Parents are suppose to love & protect their children not beat them! Gosh this just makes me upset that there is and always will be nasty people out there that can & will harm children. I truelly hope everything works out for the best & your brother gets the help that he needs. Hopefully your sister in law will open her eyes because your brother needs help not someone being on his side. People need to see that there is a problem and not try to protect and cover up for the abuser. Those who do protect and cover up for the abuser are just as guilty of abuse in my opinion. Thank you for speaking out for your nephew!
2007-03-08 00:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did right by calling cps and the childs gonna hurt again if its not stopped get other family that feels the way you do and push it the child will be better off if you do he could end up dead or beatin badly or worse the future be an abuser himself with his own kids or in prison or even in becoming mentally unstable don't let this go on anymore.
2007-03-07 22:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by alice k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone has to give a voice to this helpless child. I don't know why your sister-in-law chooses to hide her head in the sand, but you know you have done the right thing. I applaud your bravery and I'm sure it wasn't easy with your own brother the villain. Do the right thing until the stars fall from the sky!
2007-03-08 01:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That you create negitive aproch with her close friend to narate like same thing happend some where for to that place then child got helth problem to live with that to get strong to oppose that
Take to doctor counciling to change
2007-03-07 22:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you want us to tell you you did the right thing for the child and you know you did but they will be mad at you so what the child needs you to stand up for him
2007-03-07 23:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋