Help Me Diagnose My Boyfriend... I Don't Know What To Do Anymore?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I have gotten online so many times to try to diagnose my boyfriends problem. I just don't know what to do anymore. I can't find the answer. My boyfriend wouldn't have sex with me in the first few months of our relationship, which I was okay with. But it upset me when he wasn't eager to be sexual with me, but I always found porn on his computer, & he always looked at girls. It made me feel kind of unattractive. After a while I finally convinced him... He is 30 years old... to have sex with me... I also found out that he was a virgin at 30! He masturbated a lot, but he doesn't masturbate like everyone else. He said when he was young he tried doing it the way that you are "supposed" to, with a fist and an up and down motion, but he said it just felt weird and he didn't like it. This is what I was used to when masturbating anybody I was with. But he likes to have the skin right below the head of his penis pulled and almost pinched and rubbed. He has a lot of excess skin, and he likes it pulled tightly and then the extra skin almost "massaged". He doesn't like the up and down, and if you stop touching his penis, he loses his erection quickly. We have tried to have sex, but we are very unsuccessful since he doesn't like the up and down motion, and I obviously can't pull his skin with my vagina. He has a large penis, and it is hard to get it in, then it starts to lose its hardness, and we can't do it anyway. It makes me feel very unsuccessful as a lover and a woman. I love him, and he is very emotionally supportive, but I am just so terrified we won't have a sex life EVER! It has been 3 years of no sex, and it is not his fault, he has tried... but I don't know what is wrong with him, or why he can't do it the normal way, and why I can't help him. I want to have kids, and with no intercourse, that isn't happening... I was wondering if this could be a form of Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome? If that is what it is... what can I do about it? I am still so lost... I just want to make love to the man I love without having problems and getting frustrated... Because it hurts both of us...
Thanks...

We don't have that kind of money to get "artificially inseminated". I would like to do it the old fashioned way anyways. I have always loved sex, and had great sex with other people that I was with before. So, this is very hard on me. I really just want to find out what he has is called, and if there is any way to fix it.

Answer 1

You need to decide how important having sex is to you. I cant see a relationship not working without it, you need that passion and connection with that person.

Answer 2

Look into -- well, to avoid word filters, I'll call them "rooster rings". :)

That's the obvious mechanical fix.

Absent that, it's artificial insemination or nothing, I fear.

But there is such a thing as artificial insemination, so having children is NOT the problem here. The problem is the sex life itself.

And you haven't actually told us how satisfactory or unsatisfactory your form of sex life is for you.