my boyfriend jsut proposed HELP !!?

Question

he proposed last friday on my birthday.
im 17 & i live in philly hha
its not like its hicksville

is it too early ??

Answer 1

I am sorry, but yes, it is too early.

Answer 2

My boyfriend proposed to me when i was 17 too. I said yes in the excitment of it all then by the next day i had panic and change my mind. I felt that i was too young and had not enough experience with guys all together that i didnt want to rush into getting married. I can see what your feeling at the moment its a hard decision to make.
After a week i had to tell my boyfriend that i wasnt ready yet but i loved that he felt that strongly about me.
We waited and now i am 21 and we are planning our wedding properly with no doubts at all.
I would recommend that YOU make sure this is what you want for the rest of your life. And maybe a 'no' might make the magic come alive because he will want to make you fall even more in love with him as he seems to be with you.
You will feel horrible to say no but if you have just the smallest doubt it will show when it comes to planning the big day.

Look after to number YOU. Make sure this is the best for you and you future.

Hey you never know he might try again in a few more years and you'll be the happiest couple ever.
Goodluck from the Aussie

Answer 3

Hmm I do think 17 is too young to get married, and the reason I say that is when I was 17 I had a serious boyfriend, who proposed. I accepted, but we broke up a year later, luckily before we wed. At the time I thought it was the right thing to do, and that I loved him....but I now know that he wasn't the right person for me. I met my husband when I was 25, and married only a year ago, after 5 years together.

I know that you are going to hear a lot of people say you are too young, and that probably isn't what you want to hear, but really you have a lot to learn before you are truly ready to settle down. Not to mention all the fun you still have left to have.

If you really love him, and your head AND your heart is telling you that you should marry him...then accept his proposal, but don't rush into the wedding....at the end of the day if you are in love, and you plan to spend the rest of your lives together......what will a few more years waiting hurt.

Hope this helps :))

Answer 4

I don't want you to feel like I'm saying that love before a certain age isn't real, but yes, dear. it is too early. You're going to be a completely different person five years from now than you are today. People do the most changing and growing in their late teens and early twenties. Three years down the road you may look back and realize that he was never what you really wanted in the first place. If its real, then he won't mind waiting to see where life takes the two of you. But you have your whole life in front of you and you're so young and have so much to learn. While its wonderful to have someone along side you to learn with, it doesn't mean you have to get married. Give yourself time to learn to be who you're going to be and tell him you're not ready. I don't think you would have asked the question if you were.

Answer 5

YES...I don't think I can emphasize just how too early' it is for you. Now I'm not one for telling someone how 2 live their life, but heed my advice on this one. At 17, you will go thru many character & personal changes still before you really become the person you'll be 4 the rest of your life. Not so much physical changes but more mental & emotional changes. Trust me, if your bf is younger than 25 he too will go thru many changes. Basically, keep your options open so as 2 save yourself potential headaches & heartaches in the future. If you both love each other enough & it's meant 2 last, what is the rush 2 get married? You can still be together with the same amount of love 4 each other w/o marriage. So be together & maybe even live together for 5, 8, 10 yrs & if all goes well, you'll know & then get married.

Answer 6

I'm sorry but yes it is TOO EARLY

If you know that you to want to be together than you should
stay engaged and wait until you both get an education and have jobs that provide enough money for both of you to live well, enough to buy a house and enough to buy cars etc etc etc

I'm sorry so say if you get married to early and you don't get a college education and get a job that your life might not be to great ... there will be a lot of financial problems for the most part along with many other things

I wish you luck!

Answer 7

What do I know...I'm not from Philly....I'm from hicksville I guess....I got married when I was 18 (NOT pregnant by the way) and that has been 17 years ago....I love my husband more now than I ever knew it could be possible....but I also know our case is special..I don't hear about couples having the blessed marriage as we have....but then I don't hear of many 18 year olds having Christ centered in their NEW marriage either..so there ya go....nobody can answer this question but you....and that would be why he asked YOU. But I would think it depends on what you have planned for the future .....so do you have any plans? How would marriage effect your plans/dreams?

Answer 8

Yes! You're going to change a lot in the next 5 years or so, and so you can't be sure yet that you're going to stay together. If you still want to say yes, then get engaged but DON'T GET MARRIED. Stay engaged for a while (like a few years) until you're absolutely sure. You're obviously having doubts already if you're asking here and if you haven't answered him after a week. It's much easier to get out of an engagement than it is to get out of a marriage, if need be. I always say that if you won't be able to partake in the champagne toast at your reception, then you're too young to get married. Good luck.

Answer 9

You didn't really give enough information for anyone to really thouroughly answer this question.

There are many things you need to consider when making a commitment to marriage, firstly do you love him, can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him?

Do you think you want to commit to someone for life at such a young age?

Also generally whether planned or not babies are a factor too, do you really want to be a parent at a very young age?

Do you want to study, have you got dreams and ambitions for a career? Generally when you marry most of the things you say you are going to do that you have not all ready done usually go out the window.

Take a lot of time to think about it, personally i would say yes you are too young but you need to think about it and make the decision for yourself.

Answer 10

Only you can answer that question. But I know a very helpful principle which has helped me a lot in difficult situations. When you have to take an important decision and you are really in doubt whether to say "yes" or "no", say "no". The very fact that you doubt, means that there is something stopping you to say "yes", even if you might not know exactly what it is. If you were really convinced you wanted to marry him, wouldn't you have said "yes" last Friday?

Answer 11

Dear Caitlin,
You are much too young. If you feel like you are in love, then you should tell him that you gave his proposal alot of thought and discussed it with your parents and they do not approve, and that you decided that you want to wait. Its much too much pressure for you right now because you want to finish college and get a career first. If you feel that you like him, but not enough to marry him, then I would tell him that you are not ready to even think about marriage with him or anyone and if he gave you a ring, return it right away. Don't be pressured when you cannot handle it. Who you like at 17 is not necessarily the person you will like at 24 because you become more mature with age. Think about that.