I am 42 and have only ever been in two long term relationships. Until I met HIM. Well, its been going on for 3 months now and I know I am getting attached. I told him the other night that I want to remain his friend, he is one of the good guys you know, so have stopped the 'other' thing. I am kicking myself now, although I don't want to end up getting hurt and attached, I know I could really fall for him and as much as he cares for me (just comes round to give me a hug when I am low, and we talk for hours), I know I am not the one for him. Hand on heart, it would never work long term.
Gentle advice please on getting over this, the sex was great, he is great and although he tells me I am great, I know the 'click' isn't there for him.
Thanks you guys.
2007-03-07 21:14:44 · 9 answers · asked by Andrea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh poor you!
it's so hard when you meet a man but only as friends, but then you fall into bed too. i know!!! have you talked to him to confirm he does only want to be friends? dont need to tell him your feelings too, just say yuo're wondering as you need to know for definite incase you meet a guy that you like and wouldnt want to hurt him as you care for him so much.
but if you really believe 'hand on heart' it woill not work, you need to wean yourself off sexually and try to keep him as a friend, its lovely to have a genuine male friend but easy to lose that if you cant keep the sex out of your head, i didnt and lost my friend who used to treat me like a sister!
good luck
2007-03-07 21:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there's another side to each other that you still have to discover, and that can only be done by going away somewhere for the weekend and doing things that you normally wouldn't do, or different things. Take both of yourselves out of your 'normal' situation, ie - when he comes around to your house. Have a few drinks too. Best of luck x
2007-03-08 05:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't u let your self get in love with him?
If he is a good guy then why?
U need 2 fall in love.
Sex in not everything in a relationship.
Speak 2 him.
U need 2 have a serious relationship. You r not a child anymore, and if you continue like this you will wake up one day and you will realise you r allong......... but it's going 2 b 2 late.......
Let ur self faul in love.....
Good luck ..
2007-03-08 05:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by iona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya its so sad when love goes to waste. Try to concentrate on other things as a way of getting him 'out' of your system. All the best I know it is not easy
2007-03-08 05:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by Olga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
share good times without the interference of doubt.enjoy and he does same that i believe for u
2007-03-08 05:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bed friend? Is he a bed bug. Little f**kers hurt when they bite don't they?
2007-03-08 05:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you. if you want to talk i am here for you.
2007-03-08 05:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy the good times otherwise that's all i can say
2007-03-08 05:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both had only sexual feeling and comfort, not mental comfort.
2007-03-08 05:24:56 · answer #9 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋