I always treat my girlfriend nice as I believe that she will become part of the family later. But however, I had always been taking advantage off and taken for a ride with my previous relationships just because I am nice. Now I had a new girlfriend but I am pondering whether I shall be nice to her or not. If I be nice to her, I will be hurt again if she take me for a ride but if I don't it seems to be unfair to her and she might be thinking that she is being given a cold shoulder. For all the experience lovers out there, please advise what need to be done as I am really at a lost now.
2007-03-07 20:27:56 · 15 answers · asked by Mr Nice Guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hear what you are saying , and am in the same boat .. but my advice is , do not shy away from whoever you are , because you never know the person who you are interested in now , might be looking for the real you , stay true to yourself , and be yourself , because you will regret the person you become , if you recreate yourself into something you are not. .. my ultimat advice is learn how the other people used you in the past , and build on that , do not damage your nature ! eventually you will find happiness!
2007-03-07 20:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by DSV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be hard for you to change personality, but I think you should. By that I don't mean stop being nice. I mean choose a different kind of gf. Sounds like you keep finding ones who take advantage of you. If you haven't changed, this one will probably be the same. If you have, then this one might be right and you don't have to be mean. You may want to talk to a counselor too. There's a reason you let people do this to you. Better to find out what that is and change from there than to just start being mean.
2007-03-08 04:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her nice or she will end up resenting you, hating you or breaking up with you. That is, if she any self respect for herself. Its a risk to get into any relationship, the risk is being hurt. Always remains yourself and be good to the person even if you think about what could happen. Be nice but dont be a pushover. Stand your ground.
2007-03-08 04:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being nice and being a pushover can be a fine line. I have the same problem in that I am so willing to help and such some people take advantage of it. I havent figured it out yet, but god luck to you. /and i'll keep an eye on thus one too.
2007-03-08 04:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by hlind28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you, man! I've always been Mr. Nice guy and Mr. Caring guy while all the crappy, wife-beating, ******* of the world have sexy wives that won't leave them. I guess it's time to start smacking them around some and act like every other loser out there, because it seems like that's what Women want now, and guys seem to just want a woman who won't press charges.
2007-03-08 04:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always treat others how you want to be treated. there is a difference between being nice and being a pushover. give respect and be nice but dont allow to be walked over. dont take it out on her though that your past relationships havent been real good. we have all been through bad ones good luck
2007-03-08 04:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by bobbi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice, because that is who you are. You can't expect to have a nice relationship with somebody when you are not being yourself - that makes you deceitful. You will eventually meet the right person for you & you won't have to lift a finger.
2007-03-08 04:35:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be clingy girls hate that. Also if you don't like something say so. No girl wants a man who is a pathetic little marshmallow too scared to stand up for himself. Show her some of that male ego girls have heard so much about. There's nothing wrong with being proud of yourself.
2007-03-08 04:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the last guy I heard go on this rant was a cheating bastard... soo.... are you sure that you're the only one "being taken for a ride" in these relationships. ... If that doesn't apply... well even if it does, always be nice to your girl. always. remember girls talk. could bite you in the *** later
2007-03-08 04:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by Celeste 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to treat her the way you wish to be treated yourself.Open up and trust her.We are all hurt in relationships,it is what that helps us grow.One of lives lessons, I wish you the best, ox
2007-03-08 04:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by mother hen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋