Ive been with my girl over a yr. I have told her i love her but she has told me she doenst believe in love. Yet, she wants to continue this relationship knowin that i love her and she wants to go to school in a Diff. country for 4yrs. She wont know if she gets in the school till next year, but im confused on why she wants to continue this when its HIGHLY likely that she will get in and yet she cant love me?. Is it wrong to think this will be a waste of time if she gets in and we break up? 4yrs is a long time and i love her more everyday. Im her first REAL b/f so no other guy has been there and messed with her "Love" situation. But if she wants to continue this for another yr. and see what happens does that mean she loves me? I know she cars for me. But i cant understand why she would want to put "US" in that situation. Its a yr. away but wont that make it worse? Im confused on how to take it.
2007-03-07 19:27:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The girl I love and have been with for over a year is going overseas in 5 months for maybe two years. It was playing on my mind but we did long distance for a year. I will hopefully visit her two or three times and she will come back here once. I am not interested in anyone else and don't intend to date while she is away. The difference is she has said she loves me. At the end of the day you just gotta do what's good for you. But talk to her about it. good luck
2007-03-07 19:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by theoldbgee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no if she wants to wait and then go to collage she was probably a product of a marriage that went bad with her parents and then her mom could not make something of her self because she thought it was to late. Ur girl might not want to make the same mistake that her mom made. the longer two r together the more in love u will fall the move she might come to love u and if she has to go away to collage then maybe u can put your life on hold and move and get a job or go to collage with her so u two can be together. talk to her and see what hap pends and if she is up to u movie closer to where she is going to go to school then she probably does love u to but if afraid of what well happen if she lets u in.
2007-03-07 19:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude if u really do love her.. you'll respect her choices and decisions .. you cant push her into not goin jus cause u think she may break up with u or wateva.....u have to let her go.. and if u truly are in love with this person she'll be back... for now though u need to let her make her life choices... and isnt love bout sacrifices and compromises ?? and i think the waits worth it...that is if u really do love her ! so basically u have to ask urself that question ! and ur theo nly one with an answer ! so good luck !
2007-03-07 19:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by I V X 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very selfish, if i was you i would go my own way, now before you love her anymore. i know its going to hurt you but in a yr it will hurt more, you deserve better. Go find a girl that will love you back the same. she is only holding on too you until she finds better..and right now i don't think she can and she knows this.
2007-03-07 19:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by goolie06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her straight out if she still wants to be in the relationship whilst she is overseas. She'll probably have been waiting for you to ask. At least then, if she says no, you can move on as quickly as possible. But good luck!
2007-03-07 19:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by jacintamusiclover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is not right with her to say that she doesn't beleive in love, but all i can say is try and stay with her up until she leaves, then while she is gone test urself and stay true to her, and if she writes or calls u to break it off, then so be it, at least u will still be able to say that u are not a slacker and u don't cheat on ur women.....that is what makes a man
2007-03-07 19:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by carolina_smurrfgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she likes you even if she doesn't believe in love but you have to take into consideration her ambitions. maybe she wants to attain something and being in this school for 4 years is one way of getting it. why not let her go first? just be ready with the consequences. that's reality, man. if you let her go and she comes back to you, she's yours but if not, she was never meant to be. meanwhile, live your own life. don't live your life based on her. live it as you want it to be, as you are supposed to live it.
2007-03-07 19:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me she wants a commitment-free relationship. If you want commitment, maybe you should move on and find another girl who will allow herself to love someone.
2007-03-07 19:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she really just wants you to prove to her what love really is. show her the world and everything. prove to her you love her.
she says she doesn't believe in love because she hasn't felt it or experienced it.
treating her right and everything will make it better.
2007-03-07 19:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waite and see
2007-03-07 19:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by andrea t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋