OK heres the story, im 20 years old and my ex boss shes 31 told me 5 minths ago that she likes me a lot and im the only one who understands her. I have always had a huge crush on her and now that i dont work with her anymore it will be ok. ok now the bad news. she is dating a guy who is psyco and a drunk. the only reason she is dating him is because she cant afford to keep her house if he leaves. I really turst this person a lot and over the past 5 months she has been either "I miss you" to I cant talk to you anymore and she ignores me. each one lasting weeks at a time. Right now she talks to me everyday, she means the world to me, she is smart bueatiful and funny. She is always on my mind. But when she ignores me i cry and it hurts. the last time she did i tried talking to other girls. then she says "I heard about this girl you've been talking to and im gonna stop that, cause im back. And my question is should i ignore her and walk away or keep with it or i dont know. :(
2007-03-07 19:16:08 · 6 answers · asked by Ikemike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that you are confused, means that your heart and mind are not in agreement with your feelings. You need a balance between the three. So, from logic perspective - the woman is too old for you, if it was the other way around may be things wouldn't be as confusing as they are. She is using her position to dominate, control and manipulate you into what she wants out of you. When she gets it (whatever it is), you will be nothing but trash. Take my advice, if you can run away from her - don't even think twice, RUN....RUN.....
2007-03-07 19:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by RealArsenalFan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel about her, and then ask her what the hell she really wants out of her relationship with you, if it is a relationship by her standards. You're not a toy, are you? Cuz if you are, then you wouldn't mind her pulling you out to play with and then putting you back on the shelf when her attention span goes elsewhere. Seems to me she's toying with you, because you've only shown her that she can. If she's smart, she probably has guessed you have feelings for her, and she's playing with them when she feels a need for it. You need to confront her and give her an option, to either be real with you or move on so you can move on. You're probably a great guy for a great girl. But you're letting your feelings for this girl cloud your mind from seeing her for what she really is doing. And based on what you say, she seems to be a user and a game player.
2007-03-08 03:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is to old and she is playing mind games with you. Find someone sweet closer to your age.
Your ex boss has a guy- she keeps him around you say to pay the bills. What does that make her? A user.
She sounds like a psycho and she uses you to feel better about herself and her self created situation. Dont pity her!
Your a toy my dear...a fresh innocent toy.
2007-03-08 03:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you gotta real dilemna on your hands..Sounds to me like you have real feelings for someone who is actually kinda nuts.
Good news..she can't stop you from talking to or having relationships with other girls. what you really need to do is put your foot down and be a man about this whole situation..Tell her flat out that she is smart beautiful and funny..but you aren't going to tolerate the current cycle of talking or being ignored..Be in charge..because it is YOUR life she wants to be a part of so YOU set up the rules..if she can't deal with them that is HER problem..From past experience, women in abusive relationships, love to tell about their problems with the creeps they are with but always find an excuse to stay with them..If you are looking for love..I'd look elsewhere...Good luck to you..I hope you meet someone who cares about you to make you happy.
2007-03-08 03:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by B-Rabbit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has so much drama in her life she wants to share it with you. You do not need that. She is using you to feel better when her alcoholic boyfriend treats her like sh*t. Move on with your life do not become attached to the drama or chaos of someone else life. You sound sensitive and there is nothing wrong with that, find the one for you. You deserve better!
2007-03-08 03:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by mundo808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you look like naked?
2007-03-08 03:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by shitpoopcrapterd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋