we chatted for a month before we decided to meet each other ...the first time we met, i invited him to hang out with my friends!!! the problem was, another guy, who likes me for the longest time , was also there....what happened was like,..i wasn't able to entertain him...the next day i received a message from him saying " why did u do this to me?, why did u lie?....he said he was jealous....we decided to meet and work things out...the day after that...he went back to his home town for a two week holiday...on his way to his hometown, he never failed to give me a ring, even if it was just a stop-over...during the entire duration of his vacation...he often calls me , almost everyday, and send me messages...
he said he likes me and miss me....
Is it really possible to like somebody of whom u met only twice?...or he is just using me coz he is new to that place?...
2007-03-07 18:27:10 · 13 answers · asked by belle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seems like he might like you. If you don't like him that way though, you should cut him loose.
2007-03-07 18:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you talked for a month before you even met, it is definitely possible that he sincerely likes you. And, yes, it is also possible that he feels attached to you because he needs to feel some warmth since he is in a "new" place. And even if that's so, that doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't truly have feelings for you. Sometimes people develop real feelings based upon their circumstances...they are drawn together because of certain voids that need to be filled. It really is hard for an outsider like me to say exactly what's going on between you two. I have learned to not jump to conclusions about people's feelings...sometimes you have to go with your inner voice. You know what your conversations feel like...what does that tell you? Do you really share yourselves with one another? If so, that's a good sign of real feelings. And if you do communicate well, then talk to him about what you are feeling. It sounds like he will back to live in your town soon. When you are both in the same physical location and can really spend time together growing your friendship...that's when you will have the answers to your questions. Just go slowly and keep your heart open to the truth. Best of luck to you!
Okay, now I have added some stuff since I first posted my answer. I just read a couple of the other responses, and they included some points I missed. He shouldn't have reacted so strongly about your getting together with other people. That was a smart thing to do when you don't know someone, and in some cultures that is the common thing to do. His calling and messaging you so much could be his excitement about you or also could be scary neediness and obsession. So, be careful about that. Again, go with your instincts. In defense of that behavior...if he is calling and messaging you once or twice a day, that's not necessary over the top (I dated a great guy for three years who was that attentive, and he was very emotionally stable)...but if it is several times a day, and he is insecure about what you do when he's not around or he seems possessive...then please do be careful. Intense possessiveness includes a need to control and can lead to more dangerous behavior.
2007-03-07 18:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by arianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he's new in town and doesn't know anyone.
What I didn't like in your question was that he did not like the fact you went out with him and had other people there. YOU did the right thing by going out in a group situ like that because you don't know this clown and it also gave him the opportunity to meet other people.
If I were you, hon, I'd only be around him with other people. He seems really needy and possessive by calling yu every day while he's gone.
2007-03-07 18:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by dk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me it looks like he likes you, but on how much he likes you is another question. It is possible to become attracted to a person after two meetings. But if you want something serious out of this I would attempt to get to know this guy better!
2007-03-07 18:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by TechPhox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible to like someone after only meeting twice. Next time you meet it might be best not to involve your friends so much.
2007-03-07 18:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not using you. Why would he make all those calls to use you?
It is definitely possible for him to feel something after meeting twice. That can be enough. Its just that its not that realistic if he is expressing true love because he needs to know you better.
Its possible that something could happen here
2007-03-07 18:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by Oz Billy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is really magical and mysterious. there's a possibility that he really likes u.probably he was really taken by you during those times u chat w/ him and talk to him. there's a lot of possibility. give it more time. the only way we could check out on how he really feels is by comparing on how he treats u and his other female friends. he he treats u extra special, then it may be true that indeed he likes u.
2007-03-07 18:33:33 · answer #7 · answered by xyne_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think it sounds like this guy likes you.
He wouldn't call you THAT much if he needed someone to show him around town.
He seems genuine enough but I would cautious and give it some time before you consider letting him into your "space".
But I would give it a chance, if he seems worth it.
2007-03-07 18:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should ask him so u can get more accurate reasons..provided he's not a big liar. just be careful
2007-03-07 18:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by mizz_car 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously likes you.or else he wouldnt call you so much.he's showing you that he's really interested in you.
2007-03-07 19:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by Itsjustme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋