Hey
This is something i really need advice on.Anyway I've been dateing this guy for about 3 months now,And he has been in college...We talk like twice every week...He tells me he loves me alot...But when we do talk he always talks about sex,He told me he is a virgin,Could that make him so curious about it?He told me he wants to wait untill im ready,But he really wants me to have sex with him...The last time i told him,i dont want to have sex with him anytime soon...He got mad,And told me that hurt him,Maybe he took it the wrong way,So later he calls me..And says im sorry baby,I just thought u'd rather have sex with a different guy,Thats the way you made it seem...He helps me when i have problems...Do you think he loves me from what you hear?I think he might...But again he talks about sex everytime
2007-03-07 18:18:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that you will do all these thing after marriage.
If he agree than it's ok.
if he deny then it's a wrong guy.
2007-03-07 18:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by Tarzan P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think couples get into this all the time. =\ Your guy is probably curious about it, and now he's a college boy, so maybe he feels insecure or worried about being a virgin [which is fine.!]. The whole "I'm scared you'll pick another guy" is another insecurity he may have, and now, im guessing you guys dont talk/see each other, now that he's in college & all. Talk to him about how you really feel,and if he really wants to have sex with you, give him an honest answer, yes or no. If you're not ready, you cant be forced, if he truly cares for you, he will wait. & this will simply show you how much he does love you, or care for you.
2007-03-08 02:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he either has a 'one track mind' that you don't need right now, or he's got some serious issues around 'sex'.
I don't think you should give in, if you're not ready, and if he continues to pressure you, then you need to let him know where you stand, and WHY you carry this belief.
If he's in college, and still a virgin, that's quite surprising. You don't hear of many young men in his age category who is still a virgin. I'm thinking maybe he's just feeling insecure right now, and you need to reassure him that when the time is right, there will be that opportunity where you both can enjoy that moment. For the time being, however, you should just keep your feet planted, firmly, in a vertical stance, and not give in, just because he wants it so bad. He needs to learn patience, and take your feelings into consideration.
2007-03-08 02:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably likes you but love you? I don't think so. He's really looking for sex. He's in a hurry to get rid of his virginity and he doesn't really care if you're ready or not. He only said he was sorry about flipping out over your remark because he doesn't want to appear selfish or like he's only out for sex. Your comment didn't indicate that you wanted to sleep with other guys so, he totally pulled that out of the air to justify him getting mad. If he truly loved you, he wouldn't talk about sex all the time or get mad when you said you're not ready.
He's a selfish guy in my opinion. Not really worth the time or effort. I think if you did sleep with him, it would end soon after. He sounds childish and self absorbed. Finding another guy who is actually mature is probably a good idea. This guy is after one thing and not really interested in your feelings about it.
2007-03-08 02:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very normal to me, very young, very unready to settle down in any way... He is at a very sexually aware time of life and sex is on his mind all the time, which is normal.. He probably does love you, as you sound nice and worthy of love, but he can't love you at this time in a long term adult manner. He might want to, but he's just not ready...
Long distance relationships, especially when one of the people needs a current sexual partner, are very difficult.. so keep him as a friend, like him, or even love him, but don't expect him to want you if you won't give him sex, and if you do give him sex, don't expect him to stay with you.. He's a child really, in a young adults body...
Does this make any sense?
Cause you already know this right? Look into your heart, and you will know that I am right.
2007-03-08 02:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by Golfcarmel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him how u feel hearing about the topic. tell him it makes u feel uncomfortable but it does not mean u dont want it do it w/ him. tell him u rather talk about more serious stuff and that sex is something u could always talk about but not now. there is also a possibility that he is excited u know. or getting pressure from his friends. say if his friends are aware that he is indeed virgin, probably they keep on bugging him if something happened between the 2 of you. let him know how u feel towards it.
2007-03-08 02:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by xyne_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your still a virgin, then wait till you are ready. He says he loves you, but then says, and pressures you, about having sex... doesnt seem like he cares about your feelings on that subject.
And a guy in college thats a virgin........ seems a little fishy to me.
2007-03-08 02:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by mcfly_lives 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's definitely suspicious. Maybe he's not the one if he isn't understanding to wait for you. It's really weird that he would assume you'd rather do it with someone else. n
2007-03-08 02:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are your boyfriend are young and emotionally immature and shouldn't be talking about love right now. Just have fun together. If his sex talk makes you uncomfortable then duh, you aren't ready so you should move on to someone more your speed.
2007-03-08 02:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by GranolaGurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was just thinking surely there wasn't anyone on the net that naive and I guess I was wrong.
2007-03-08 02:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by lovie12346 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋