Why the mixed signals?

Question

The man I was dating thought I wanted something a lot more serious than him, so I was "dumped." Because I am not a chaser, I accepted it, stopped calling and making an effort to see or speak to him. I see him often (at work), and act normal as though nothing bugs me. Now, he acts as though he is back to being 'flirty', i.e., rubbing my back, saying flirty things, being extremely nice. I act as though it doesn' t phase me..But I'm wondering, why the mixed signals? Don't you think if he 'got rid' of me, he'd stop making an effort to be around me at least? Perhaps because I didn't chase him, he is curious again? What do you think? Thanks :)

Answer 1

Guys love the "hunt and the "chase" it gives us a real thrill and for some more thrilling than actually landing the girl ..you presented him a challange and he is digging it big time. Throughtout time women has learned to act aloof and casual around men to catch their attention and it works as you can see.

Guys don't find a girl appealing that calls all the time trying to beg them back..infact we get outright turned off by it.

Answer 2

when you were available, he lost his interest to you (it could be bcos you wanted too soon a serious relationship, or bcos he found another interest..). either the other interest didnt work, or your stable position made him understand your value, or he is just playing around.

what to do? either get in the game giving him completely mixed signals (but you risk to to get hurt if you really like him),
either tell him:"you dumped me, what exactly do you want now?" (this will make him go away if he doesnt want you, or apologise and ask you out again).

but first of all, think what YOU want to happen, then decide your actions

Answer 3

I think he has realised that you don't care about him and he doesn't like that much at all! He's probably doing everything he can to make you say 'I'm ready for something serious'. He obviously still really likes you and wants you back he just isn't going to admit defeat after he broke up with you. Guys never like going back on their decisions and he probably thought it was really 'manly' of him to make the decision to break up with you. If you like him,return the flirting.

Answer 4

go girl! im proud of what u did. there's a big possibility that he is trying to "attract" you again becoz u never chased after him. its like an ego thing u know. wondering how come u never ran after him.somaybe he plans to attract u and then dump u again. but then again, maybe...just maybe he still likes u.be cautious though...if in case he ask u back...think y in the 1st place u broke up w/ him...good luck!