When it goes up, like right now, I feel so ugly and embarrassed and like no one would every want me. I am a 21 year old college student, I should be loving life right now, but I'm really hating my body right now and my self esteem is so low. I'm single and I feel like no guy would ever want me, there are so many beautiful, skinny girls out there. I guess it helps just to see my problem written out there, I'd appreciate any advice. Thanks.
2007-03-07 17:57:48 · 10 answers · asked by dandelion86 2 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
hey redcharvel, i'm very sorry for your losses. i know you realize that just because there are worse problems in the world that mine are not invalidated by that. If someone's having a problem that's really tearing them up inside, it's not fair to discourage them from reaching out for help just because the world's a shitty place all around. Thanks for sharing your experience, though.
2007-03-07 18:26:14 · update #1
Gal, get some help. Quick! Five Seven and only 125 to 135? Girl you are a rail. I'd like to get back down to 150 to 160, though I do believe that 150 would be too thin for me and I'm only 5'6"!! I'm classed as obese at over 200 ( how far over is my business!) Lets just say I got a lot to lose but I've also been around long enough to know that ya gotta love yourself before any one else can love you.
Chunk the diets, especially the crazy, unhealthy ones. They don't work. The pounds may go away for a while but they will come back with friends.(more pounds)
Exercise at a healthy rate, eat healthy : lots of fruits and veggies and a little lean meat, in small servings five to six times a day. Do NOT starve yourself!!! that way lies either death or being as fat as me.
Your right this should be the best time of your life. But you need to ask yourself some hard questions. Like, do you really NEED a guy? It is possible to be whole and happy on your own.
Talk to a councilor about this. Don't wast another second of your beautiful life hating yourself because you don't look like the models in magazines. They are all air brushed to look like that anyway. Tyra is the only model I've seen with a good head about the body image thing anyway.
2007-03-07 18:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sulkahlee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you're feeling. But you really are a very ideal weight. I'm down to about 135 after being 162, and even though I look at myself and go ... ugh ... I am so flabby ... I think of how I must've looked almost 30 lbs ago and realize that I am doing pretty good, compared to some people. If you are really feeling down about your weight, you should do something about it. I'm not saying you need to lose weight, but maybe doing some strength training will help define your muscles and tone up. And I'm also 21 and I've kinda noticed that guys our age are getting out of their 'super skinny is hot' phase and wanting a girl with a little more curvature. The skinny girls probably aren't happy with their bodies either ... so don't stress.
2007-03-07 19:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by Heidi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
Based upon your measurements of height 5 foot 7 inches and weight of around 130 pounds, your Body Mass Index is
21.1.
According to the web site below
http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/
this is within the normal range.
Having said that, if you feel overweight, you are the only one who can do something about it. Set yourself a challenge, by increasing your level of exercise, and improve your diet.
By the way, don't think all guys want really skinny girls. A girl does not have to be skinny to be beautiful. Some of the most beautiful girls that I have encountered in my life are curvy and voluptuous (and have a great personality as well). Try to be happy with who you are, and if you are not happy , take some steps to improve the situation.
good luck...
2007-03-07 18:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Michael T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the exact same problem, and i weight the same and i am the same height as you. there doesnt seem to be a cure, except when you feel fat and ugly, call up some friends and go out and see how even though you might think you're fat and ugly, your friends love you no matter what and most likely your fat- and uglyness is just all in your head.
if that doesnt help, go to the gym and work out for an hour or so. you'll feel energized and the extra burnt calories will make you feel like you've done something to help your weight issues. good luck!
2007-03-07 18:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by ohyes_itsbekah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see your body in a different way. Do you really think Marilyn Munroe was fat and therefore unattractive? Sophia Loren fat? Do you really think men are turned off by a body like that? Skinny can be attractive but curves are so sexy! I love my little tummy bump and my womanly thighs and bum. I love feeling and looking feminine! I love that I am fleshy and soft. Remember you are a woman! I challenge you to take the time to look at pictures of these women and you will see how sexy and gorgeous they really are! There is nothing wrong with wanting to be thin but you must be realistic, you are a woman and parts of your body are fleshy, just think HOW SEXY! Trust me I understand not wanting to be big but you need to celebrate being a woman. Put on a sexy dress, show off your assests, your curves, your flesh and you will feel sexier than ever!
2007-03-07 20:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by RD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i think ur max weight(135) is ok for your height,but ur minimum is a bit too low.Try to keep a healthy diet,dont obsess....eat healthy and exercise regularly,everything will adjust.i think ur stressing too much on this issue.i bet u dont even look bad!so i suggest u snap out of it,start loving and appreciating urself the way u are now(if u dont,nobody will)and start enjoying ur life.Its all in your head how u look at things,u should also see women who are uglier/fatter than u who have happy lives and wonderful relationships.Stop comparing urself only to those better than u cuz in life there is always better and worse so its best if u start thinking reasonably....give it a thought.
Good luck.
2007-03-07 18:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all I must say to you is love yourself. feeling down about your weight and wondering if people, guys especially, are going to like you is crazy-thinking. there are so many people out there with issues surrounding them, and people still love them for who and what they are. you should consider yourself special (this will help with your self-esteem) and a special guy for you will come along if that's what your wondering. don't worry about the others just work on yourself and everything will fall into place.
2007-03-07 18:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by xxxladyxxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for my area, it relies upon on your top. For a short individual it may be seen chunky. For an time-honored individual it may be seen generic. For a tall individual who's in basic terms too skinny.
2016-09-30 09:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to love your self before you can feel ready to let others love you. If you feel like your current weight makes you unhappy then change. But change for yourself and not for the guys.
2007-03-07 18:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by TheSilverBeetles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest suicide because this is the worst thing that anybody could go through. My friend Tommy was killed in Iraq. He had to be buried in another state because his body had already started decomposing in Nasiryiah before he was found I also had to watch another friend deal with losing his mom to cancer. She had to stay on a morphine drip because the pain was unbearable. I should have told them that they dont know what real pain is like. At least they didnt have to deal with the hell of feeling a little fat and ugly
2007-03-07 18:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by redcharvel375 2 · 0⤊ 6⤋