My mother and I have not talked for about 2 weeks...?

Question

We are both angry and (I am hurt also) about some words and actions that took place. I feel sad but I also feel that she was in the wrong so I said something mean. I still feel that she was in the wrong and I don't think she will change the way she is. Has anyone not talked to their mother for a long time and what made you reconcile?

There has always been favortism for my sis over me. And she continues.....

well-I have a 6 yr old and 7 month old-both girls. She has tried to see them without dealing with me. I am not ready to talk to her.

LOL... some of you people have no idea what you are talking about. I said my mother favored my sis. I did not say anything about their relationship. By thy way, my sister hates my mother with a passion. My mom and I used to talk daily and my sis talked to my mom once a month if that-only because of the grandkids. Also, I did apologize for the one statement that was wrong. My mother will probably never change. I know I will talk to her eventually, but at this time it is better to take a break.

Answer 1

You should be ashamed of yourself. Not talking; communicating with your parents is probably the worst sin you can commit. Experience is at your request through your parents and regardless of what you think all parents do not want harm to come to their children. Now the reason why you think she has a better relationship with your sister is because she does.. Women communicate different and about everything. Men are more to themselves and do not get into communication about sex and your body or heart wrenching feelings where they do. This should not put you at odds with your mother, you should be attempting to communicate with her in everything you feel comfortable talking with her about, this will open new doors if you open up and than you will find that her concerns is your well being.

Answer 2

I have not talked to my mom for awhile now
we had a really good realationship before I got married and ever since then it's been constant fighting!It's gotten so bad that Jan.09 was my daughters Birthday and she did'nt even call.
How sad is that?I have so much respect for her and she acts like she doesn't have a care in the world I will not call her ever.I hope you have better luck.I'm really angry with her, but sometimes I think she's the only mom I have,and if something was to happen to her I don't know how I would live with myself,knowing I could have called her and made up.

If you need to talk to her call her ,do not let it be
2 weeks and then a month and then 6months.
Just call her ,forget what happened,life is so short and we tend to take things for granted .
Please call her soon!!!

Answer 3

So you both have made each other angry, but that is no excuse to not talking to your mom. You both are grown adults now. What ever has been said, should just not happen again. Just being angry will not solve anything, it will make things worse for yourself and it is not healthy at all.

Plus, you both should respect each other. If your mom is hard to get along, then she is going to be who she is. You can't change her. You just need to let go of the past that you have going on in your head over your sister being treated better than you. It is not fair to your husband or kids that you have to keep this past with you. Time to let it go! Even if your mom doesn't apologize, you should make the first move by apologizing to her either in person who send her a card. At least you made that move first and it will now be up to her.

Make it right with her. The only thing you can do if she starts acting out at you is to remove yourself and your kids from her. And tell her that if she wants to see her grandchildren, she can visit you. So at least when she is there visiting and if she behaves inappropriately, you can tell her to leave. Don't let her behave like this in front of your kids.

If both of you were wrong, then you both need to apologize. You are grown adults for crying out loud, so now start acting like one!

Answer 4

I think your solution depends on your history with your mother. Mine was very emotionally neglectful to me and when I moved away after college I realized how much more healthy I was without her in my life. When my dad died (her ex husband) she refused to come to the funeral, wouldn't let me and my husband stay with her, and was saying things like my dad deserved to die. I told her how I felt about her treatment of me and that I really need her support sometimes and she got angry at me and hung up the phone.
She never called me back and it's been 4 years. I think it's pretty obvious my mother doesn't really love me and does not want to be in my life if I stand up for myself. I do not plan on ever contacting her again.
Does this help put your situation into perspective for you?

Answer 5

The only thing I can tell you is let it go. I lost my daughter 4 weeks ago on March 9. I thank god we were okay, but if we were not talking I would not be able to go on. Its hard enough you know. Just let it go and don't go a day without telling her you love her.

Answer 6

I think you and your mom should talk about it without getting mad or anything or consider counseling. Hopefully you two will be able to rebuild your relationship.

Answer 7

You can start with an apology for what you said. Someone has to be the better person...let it be you.

Answer 8

please talk to her today. my dad and i never talked for 6 weeks,this was years ago and he has since died but i still regret those silent 6 weeks,life is to short to fall out ,and to be full of regrets

Answer 9

YES and whenever you get ready to go or talk to your mother you will. Our Mothers can also be wrong. THANKS for GOD for always being there!!!!!!!!!