im confused what should i do?

Question

ok we've been together for a year and he was so nice in the beginning a now he's a total conrol freak!!!!! he basically lied about who he was.....he's a ex drug dealer and is jobless spends a lot of time at my place he eats (alot),sleeps, showers
basically run up my bills and cant help me out because he doesnt have a job i should of known because he's 22 and still lives with his mom.....i eventually found out that the only responsiblity he had in his life is a cell phone bill and gas for his car.....so now he's been at my house for the last few months and then want to nit pick on me having little smart comments to say when i say i want some space...wtf! he act like he cant go home without him sayin....i only want him to go home is because i want to go out and meet ppl and all this other BS. he always blurts out" do whatever you want" he act like i need his approval whats his problem and what should i do???HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

*******************BEST ANSWER HERE****************
Babygirl, sorry that no one has answered your question by now.
More than likely they can't relate, but real talk has arrived.
Here's the situation.
He's got good game. You have to admit that. Why?
Because he gave a performance when he met you that was so good - it fooled you.
Once you bought into the act, you began to see him for who he REALLY is.
Which is someone you don't need to be with - he's not on your level, as he portrayed.
** COLLECT YOUR KEYS FIRST! **
I think the best thing is to be mature about the situation and tell him that you both need space and your own privacy. Tell him - be honest - that he's not who you signed up to be with, far different that he portrayed himself. Let him know that you are not obligated to him as it is "just dating". He assumed by staying over your house that he was appointed the head of the household.
Not true.

Not only will he feel offended, but it'll be good to hear the TRUTH. Maybe that will enable him to "man up" in the future.
But, for now, let him know what you don't accept and it's time to move forward.
Tell him that if there's a chance in the future after he gets himself together, you will reconsider (even though you won't).
What this method does is educate him - without finger pointing - and leaves the opportunity to do problem-solving within himself.
Find his own flaws, but respect you once he understands.
Like I said, he won't be happy because he will be exposed as a phony - but it's all good - bottom line, you're just ready to move forward.

Good luck and let me know how it goes...............

Answer 2

Throw him out and change the locks.

Call an abuse hotline first for safety tips.