my father and i don't get along at all. he's always had a grudge against me ever since i was little, and i gave up a long time ago to try to figure it out.
i'm about to get married and would 100% rather have my grandfather walk me down the isle, but i'm not sure how my family would take this. my fiance's family think i should have my father do it, but i think it would be really awkward for the both of us. i'd rather not even have him there if i could.
so should i just grit my teeth and have him give me away or should i do the non-traditional way and have who i want do it instead?
2007-03-07 17:23:01 · 15 answers · asked by lilu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tradition dictates the father walk the bride down the aisle, and let me tell you WHY... It was a business transaction, he was basically selling his daughter off to the highest bidder. The groom was either a man well enough off to support the daughter (thereby eliminating this burden from the father's shoulders) or else he was a man that was part of a family that would somehow benefit the bride's family as well (i.e. butcher, politically high up the ladder, etc)
NOW, with that in mind.... is that a tradition you really want to be a part of? NO... make your own twist in the tradition and PICK the person you wish to honor to walk you down the aisle. If the others would prefer that your father walk you down the aisle suggest that they be walked down the aisle by him (he can be an usher and seat them or he can just seat the "honored guests" or something). DO NOT let this become a source of stress... weddings are a big enough source of that without adding to it.
2007-03-07 18:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should have a real heart to heart talk with your father about why he treated you the way he did. I say this for two reasons. first, to get it off your chest and second, to see if he really cares about you.
If you are unhappy with what he does or doesn't say, then have your grandfather give you away.
At least you will have tried your best and there will never be any regrets.
After all, this is THE day. This is a one of the greatest days a woman can have. It should be perfect. If you have had this conversation with your father, then you no longer have to wonder about wrong decisions or whether or not he really did want to be the one to give you away.
2007-03-08 02:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want your grandfather to give you away, ask him to. It's your walk, and you need to have someone you love and who you won't feel awkward with make that walk with you. I have very little contact with my father, and he gave me away at my wedding. I really wish I would have had my friend give me away, because it would have meant a lot more for him to do it.
2007-03-08 01:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by insomniacprincess2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grandfather. Don't be shackled to a tradition that, in your case, carries no meaning. Symbolically, the man who gives you away is someone you're close to - usually, it would be your father, but in your case it is not so. Choose a person who means the world to you. Congrats.
2007-03-08 02:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have your grandfather walk you down the asile. You shoulden't do something just because it is traditional, if it is going to make you miserble. At my wedding my grandfather walked me down the asile, but that is because my parent's divorced when I was 4, and I have had very little contact with my father.
2007-03-08 01:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by Abigail M 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should have whom ever you want to walk you down the isle do it because it is your special day.
2007-03-08 01:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by K.T. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is YOUR wedding.
If you want your grandfather to walk you down the aisle, then that is how it will be.
Don't let people's opinions or criticism's run YOUR DAY! :)
2007-03-08 10:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think go for the most comfortable option. Its your day! If your father is going to wreck the moment don't choose him..best of luck!
2007-03-08 02:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by Angel1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is your wedding you should have things the way you want them I mean this is supposed to be your day. Please don't let the opinions of other people dictate your life. You should do what you want to do and you are uncomfortable around your dad why go through that.
2007-03-08 01:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by Robin M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why not it seems you are not very close to ur dad but are to ur grandfather so if its what you want and it will make YOU happy go for it
2007-03-08 01:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋