I have been dating this guy for quite sometime and the first time we tried having sex, we had too much to drink and he could not get it up. I thought it was the beer, but maybe not. The second time I waited for him in sexy lingerie with all intentions of seducing him. He was really excited and got it up fine but after a little foreplay and putting on the condom it went down. There was an awful silence and he told me he had a girlfriend and that is why he couldn't have sex with me. BUT, I have been dating him for 6 months and we work together and I have the KEY to his place and we were always together and I know his dad. You guys are going to think I am in denile but I really don't think he has a girlfriend. I think he has a problem. I put my clothes on and left. I haven't called him because I don't know what to say. What if he does have a girl? Or, even if he has a problem how do I go by addressing it. Help Please!!!
2007-03-07 17:15:26 · 11 answers · asked by Lexi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. This happened Sunday and he has not called me or contacted me since.
2007-03-07 17:17:07 · update #1
The poor dude is probably too embarassed to call you. He has anxiety of the sexual nature, its all in his head and its certainly not your fault, or his.
but there is something you can BOTH do to help the situation.
The most important thing is, he has to be aroused....and if he has trained himself to take care of natures call on his own, its tough to let someone else do it because he is used to being touched a certain way.....and the only way to find that out, is to ask him ..... Your role in this is to be verrrrrry patient, communicate and never rush him. If you dont have time to find the g-spot, then wait. The absolute worst thing you can do is rush him, make any type of sighing noise, express any type of impatience.....be persistent but gentle...even a flick in the VCR wouldnt hurt.
2007-03-07 17:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by Dan The Answer Man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One time does not an answer make. Erectile dysfunction happens to every man, sooner or later. He may have been too exited. Also you may have been TOO exciting, he may have thought how can I satisfy this woman and he shut down. If you make a big deal then you may be finished with him. Be patient, men are not machines.
2007-03-07 17:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you and him need to have a talk. Tell him you like him and would like to continue... but it appears to be a problem.. and tell him the mature thing is to address that issue together or him alone...........
he is probably crumbling apart on the inside and a someone to talk too right now would probably be helpfull... be mature about this.. you sound young, there shouldn't be an issue like this so be a pal, talk with him and then move along as I don't think this will correct itself...
2007-03-07 17:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something that he must look into for himself if you mention it he is just going to go into denial. Maybe he has a girl but most guys will still get aroused when they see a woman in sexy lingerie. So it could be ED or something else.
Give him some time then ask him why he is not talking to you anymore?
2007-03-07 17:21:27 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably, something about your attitude totally killed the mood. Believe it or not, men aren't always ready to go at the drop of a hat - we need to feel turned on an aroused. You might have been wearing sexy lingere, but maybe something about your body language or something you said totally spoiled the mood for him.
2007-03-07 17:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would check into the girlfriend thing and if it turns out to be a lie tell him you understand and ask if it's you because he might not be attracted to you and doesn't know how to tell you without hurting your feelings(my husband did that to someone once ) and if it is a problem he's having with his stuff give him space because guys are really sensitive abut that subject .so sorry and good luck
2007-03-07 17:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think he might have a penal d yes but its not up to you to get involved with it . I mean its going to have to be him that deals with it . Just move on because you will just embarrass him more if he thinks you know !
2007-03-07 17:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes..
Erectile Dysfunction..
Tell him to get some Viagra...
2007-03-07 17:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well the reason for him not calling is probably because he cant get a hard-on.and thats pretty embarrassing for a guy.maybe buy him some viagra?
2007-03-07 17:22:54 · answer #9 · answered by Itsjustme 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He does not have a girlfriend, he has a problem. NO MAN SHOULD DENY SUCH OPPORTUNITY, NONE WHATSOEVER.
That dude got issues.
2007-03-07 17:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋