Ladies if you have known a guy for like 12 years & whether you were single or not always been there for you without hessition or expectations. If you talk about being unhappy off track & feeling alone thank him when he comments that you always have him & how he has always been there for you & so good to you. If you tell him "I can't seem to find the real me for a while now, just kind of here doing what it is & what it is everyone needs from me. I know its not all about me, but i don't even know who that is right now. I miss my happiness but i haven't felt truly happy in a long time. I have had a hard year & somewhere along the line, I forgot about me. I am definatly off track in my heart somewhere & want to make sure that i can feel complete agian. so don't think that i constantly brush you off or that we are not friends that is not the case, I don't ever want you to think that way, please just understand.." ... I mean dont he deserve a little more then "please understand"?
2007-03-07 17:08:29 · 2 answers · asked by bpeter3196 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LOL even friendships work both ways you know right? After 12 years I don't deserve a little help in understanding why she's so unhappy & trying to be friends again yet only when it works for her? She came to me again not the other way yet I'm selfish & undeserving of a little help when it comes to trying to understand why she says she wants to be friends yet I'm not a good enough friend to once in a while be treated like a friend. She can do the whole world if she wants but I'm the bad guy? Ok...
2007-03-07 17:27:02 · update #1
You do not 'deserve' anything. If you are being her friend because of what you think you can get then you are not a friend. She does not like you that way so take it or leave it
2007-03-07 17:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some women need the guy they can kick around, to help ground them while they pursue the one they really want.
If you're really, really in need of getting laid, so as to help keep your own sanity or confidence together, you can often get them to do that for you -- but it also will tend to damage the friendship.
It all depends on your priorities, in general and in her specific case.
I did pressure a woman like that once. We no longer lived in the same town; we weren't particularly close any more; it didn't exactly require a lot of pressure; and I needed the oomph to encourage me to throw out the woman I was living with, who was great in bed but a habitual liar.
So I don't totally disapprove.
But frankly, it sounds as if after 12 years you and she still don't communicate very well. That is NOT good.
2007-03-08 03:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋