This afternoon my partner was on his way home when I went to pick up my son from school. Because the door wouldn't shut properly I had to deadbolt it. When my partner got home he didn't have a key for the door and I tried and tried to ring him but apparently his phone was playing up. Any way he got really angry that he couldn't get inside and cracked the front door. He then couldn't find his half finished car keys and when I did det hold of him he was yelling at me telling me to tell him where his fuc#$ing keys where. I didn't know and he got even angrier and smashed the home phone. Now he is saying it's all my fault because I locked the door and he couldn't get in. Is it really my fault???? Because I didn't think I did anything wrong but lock the door and went to get my son.
2007-03-07 17:00:25 · 14 answers · asked by golden tigress 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No! It's not your fault you was protecting the house. Another thing sounds to me he has a problem with anger and needs help. Considering he smashed the phone over something stupid yeah he has anger problems.
2007-03-07 17:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many serious things that bother and frustrate us everyday. Some people find out that friends and loved ones have died. Others have lost their jobs and/or maybe their homes. There are really serious things like disease and natural disasters that could strike us any and every day. That being said, getting locked out of the house is pretty small. Shtuff happens everyday like accidentally spiling soda on ourself our getting bit by a bug that shouldn't make us turn into the increadible hulk. If he cannot sweat the small stuff, imagine what will happen when real problems happen like finding out you are in a relationship with a ticking time bomb. Dump his butt, focus on your relationship with your son and make sure the rest of your life is where you want it to be. There will be others who do not become possessed by the devil when they cannot find their keys and who are not a threat to you and your son. Take care of yourself first and try to get this guy into counseling and/or anger management but be careful hom you approach him because he has already proved he is delicate. It is not your fault and he should have understood. I serously wonder if somethin glike this has not happened before to you and even if he has ever hit you or your son, because if he hasn't I do not think it is far away.
2007-03-08 01:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by Don Quesadia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he just can't control his anger. He should have just waited till you got back home. Or he should have a key to another door that is not deadbolted. No sense in busting the door in. I would make him pay for repairing the door, then tell him he needs anger management course, or boot him out.
If he doesn't pay for the door repair or replacement, take him to small claims court for the cost. Life is too short to live with a person that acts like that.
2007-03-08 01:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by ARR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got anger problems. You need outta that relationship before he is smashing you or your son and not the phone. There is no reason for that behavior. You did nothing wrong. Don't feel like there is. He's the one with the issue. There are much better men out there.
2007-03-08 01:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is mental. Next time he gets angry it could be your face he smashes and not the phone. Then again, it could have been a rough day....if it happens again..leave before it is too late...certain people have tempers and certain women end up with bruises. Good luck! And, no, it is not your fault.
2007-03-08 01:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by poemonkey1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this be a lesson and a warning. this guy has anger management problems and they are not gonna get better. A person that reacts like this is a potential danger to you and your child. I would seriously rethink this relationship if I were you. I dont want to be seeing you, or your body on the evening news.
2007-03-08 01:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you married with this partner?
anyways, talk to him (when he has calm down) and tell him that what he did hurt you (if he's "mature" and has no psychological problems) it is not YOUR fault in making sure that your house and belongings are safe (but you should have warned him about it) and he should listen to you...but if not...
if you are not married to this guy, please leave him, his behavior is so explosive. maybe next time it won't only the be the door or the phone that he'll break....
2007-03-08 01:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by unhappily married 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Someone has an anger management issue. Maybe he had a bad day, Is this normal for him to go off or is this new? Hopefully this is not a sign of things to come. Be careful.
2007-03-08 01:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by mundo808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never will be your fault.He does not know, how to deal with smalls problems like that.Is his fault,he must have a key for the door.He does not know how to deal with problems and being angry,can be dangerous for you and your son.never is your fault,is his fault.
2007-03-08 01:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault. He is just a wanker. He has anger problems and blaming you is part of that. They stem from not being able control a situation.
2007-03-08 01:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by daboss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋