I really want to move out of home! I am 19 and a college student at the moment, but I feel like when I graduate and go back home I will be stuck. I have a lot of money saved up because of my family, so when I get a job I could pay for a home, but the problem is that my parents don't think I have the skills needed to manage a household. But I was never taught those skills and have no idea where to learn them from (because my parents are too busy to teach me). My high school did not have home economics. Are there classes or something that young adults can take to learn the skills needed to live on your own as an independent person??
I do know that a house can be very expensive to keep up, but I know plenty of single people and single-income families who manage just fine.
2007-03-07 16:59:11 · 9 answers · asked by loz_chyna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I do have the giant Martha Stewart book (I should steal it because my mom doesn't use it!!). I think my parents, especially Dad, are afraid something will happen to me all alone (I'll get raped or something).
2007-03-07 17:21:27 · update #1
Your parents sound over protective. Im sure they mean well but they are trying to undermine your confidence.
If your in college there is probably a counseling center that offers free counseling to students. You might go there just to get some information on how you could function as an independent adult. I bet they could tell you how to deal with all that.
2007-03-07 19:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it the actual physical maintenance of a home your parents are worried about or the financial aspect? If it's the housekeeping (physical maintenance) I guess you could try checking out some books at the library. I have one right now from Martha Stewart. Or better yet, why not see if there is somewhere you could volunteer and actually put your skills into practice? Ask around at churches and find out if there is an elderly person in the community that could use help cleaning the house. A lot of these senior citizens were home makers most of their lives and would have excellent tricks of the trade to pass along to you. And I'm sure they would enjoy the companionship of teaching you.
If it's the financial part, there are classes you can take in personal finance. Sometimes community colleges offer them as a couple hour classes that only meet a few times. One way or another, you will be out on your own some day. Good for you for seeking out the skills to be self sufficient!
2007-03-08 01:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by kweenie97 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think at 19 you should be able to handle your finances. You say you have a lot of money saved up. The best advice I can give is stay away fromcredit card. A debit card is ok, because that lets you only spend only the money you have in the bank. A book I recommend is "The Total Money Makeover" by Dave Ramsey. I tells you how to stay out of debt and keep it that way. As far as keeping a house. Just keep things tidy, hang up the clothes straight out of the dryer and don't let the dishes pile up.
2007-03-08 01:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by imsomething63 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a mentor, a person that is living a life, or way of life you admire and aspire to. Ask that person to teach you these skills.
It is a pain, but not that hard. Get a calendar and a folder. Write the due date of bills on your calendar and pay them a week in advance--that is when you mail the payments.
Every Sunday PM, or another weekend time that suits your schedule. Look at your calendar for which payments are due within a seven day period. Write the checks and mail them. All it really takes is diligence.
2007-03-08 01:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by smp1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start buying books Good Housekeeping, Better Homes and Gardens, Martha Stewart also has a great book that weighs about 5lbs on everything. Trial and error and good common sense will carry you a long way.
2007-03-08 01:17:12 · answer #5 · answered by cynthia2817@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put everything in its place, and make sure surfaces are clean. make a check list for cleaning rooms, the kitchen, bathroom bedroom and follow them every time you clean. it will become a routine. your a smart girl you recognize dirt when u see it and if there is something (like baseboards or the inside of the fridge) that only has to be cleaned monthly or bi-weekly, write it down so u wont forget. you can get some help online. search : housekeeping tips.
heres one: work right to left or left to right around a room. and top to bottom. ex: my bathroom i work right to left and clean all surfaces and fixtures, my tub, the shelves, the toilet, than the sink.then all the glass and mirrors and finally the floor!
dont psych yourself out, its not a big deal.
2007-03-08 01:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by jean grey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go online and look for classes in housekeeping skills. I know Home Depot has classes, but they are more focused on home repair - that might be a good start though.
2007-03-08 01:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hands on is the best way to learn you dont need a degreee to be neat ,tidy and clean....just do it...
2007-03-08 01:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by remedy 4 u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm ujsut pick up after yourself and make sure everyting is tighty, its not that hard honey
2007-03-08 01:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋