My bf and I have been dating on and off for 6.5 yrs and he won't ask to marry me. We have had the relationship talk, and it seems like he is sure he wants to marry me, but he doesn't want to do it right now. What could he be waiting for? He says he is waiting for me to get out of school, but I only have one class left and he won't even discuss when would be the appropriate time to get married or engaged. Why is that? What is going through a guys mind? I mean we have been dating for 6 yrs, although we have a long distance relationship, we both are very committed to each other, so why would he not want to discuss the next step? I would think it would be nice to be able to be together everyday and night, instead of twice a month on the weekends. What could be wrong here?
2007-03-07 16:57:02 · 8 answers · asked by Strawberry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have asked him what he is waiting for and all he ever seems to say is what's the rush, we have the rest of our lives together anyway...
I have broken up with him like 3 yrs ago when I first asked him about the next step in our relationship and yet, even after I gave him another chance to figure things out (3 yrs later) he still seems like he won't make the committment.
2007-03-07 17:05:17 · update #1
yes, i agree. u need to get out of this relationship soon. it's getting u no where. don't waste another precious year with this guy who doesn't seem too interested to tie the knot.
As harsh as this sound, it seems like he is still 'searching' for the right woman, which may explain why he's holding back.
Question him again and wat ever u feel, just let it go from there. In the end, u will decide what is best for yourself and your future
2007-03-07 17:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by Ally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would not have stuck around that long. Maybe he’s not grown up enough to commit. I don’t think it is fair to make a lady wait indefinitely. The question is, what do you want out of your relationship, and is he respecting your needs?
I always sort of figured a man should be honored to have me as a wife and if he wasn’t he could leave me alone and not waste my time. Sounds harsh, but I think it’s realistic.
Marriage and having a family are not the same thing. Marriage is about a couple’s willingness to commit to each other. Finances shouldn’t be that big of a deal, either. I know a lot of very poor but happy young couples. My husband and I are poor but happy.
I have never known a girl whose fellow said things like that that ended up marrying him, to be honest. I have known quite a few who, once said goals were realized, found him running off and leaving, however.
I say you can do better. Love alone doesn't make a good relationship, I'm afraid, and it seems he's not trying to meet or even understand your needs in this matter.
2007-03-08 01:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. C. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be nervous no matter how long you have been together or how close you are. Don't press the issue too much, but try talking to him again. If he still doesn't want to commit in that fashion, then you need to tell him something like, 'well, maybe we should split if you don't want to commit'! Ask him for the honest truth on why he is avoiding the obvious. Good luck to you both!
2007-03-08 01:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by poemonkey1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is "are you ready to get married?" It sounds like your bf may have some problems that he needs to resolve. You need to decide if you want to continue to be strung along. Often if guys have hang
ups, they tend to just enjoy the fruits forever.
Remember he's not having a problem with the relationship, you are!
2007-03-08 01:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by cynthia2817@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out, get out, get out! I was there for 11 1/2 years! He will keep making excuses. Don't stay....trust me. All you do is waste alot of years you could have been out there finding the one for you. Everytime I brought it up it was always as soon as I do this, or this. He's not going to commit. It's not easy getting out of it and sticking to your guns but you have to or you will be stuck there like I was just waiting around forever.
2007-03-08 01:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably needs money cuz you know a wedding isn't cheap.or maybe he does want to marry you but he is scared of being with just one girl for the rest of his life. he is a guy! :)lol
2007-03-08 01:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not be ready. He might be waiting to finish something in his life before he settles down to have a family.
2007-03-08 01:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by kjh06_07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's not yet ready finacially or mentally maybe.... try to talk it all about with your bf... don't be afraid to ask whatever you wanna ask so your relationship will be better..
2007-03-08 01:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by honeyko_japan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋