My girlfriend and me have been together for 3 years now and?

Question

I have cheated on her before and I told her the truth as soon as I did it.I have done it twice.It's been about a year and a half now and I havn't had sex with anyone but her.She forgave me very quickl.I thought it kind of strange by life goes on.I told her I would forgive her if she ever did it.She said she would never tell me if she did cause shes afraid I would leave her for it.I feel she hasn't givin me the benefit of the doubt.I feel when I cheated on her she still showed her love fully.I feel if she did tell me that she cheated I would give her the same love back ,I'd tell her I forgive her.If she won't tell me the truth ,then I think that's "untrue love" because she's not truthful.
Finally this is what she wrote tonight:

alright Matt I find this to be the only way I can open up to you. I have had thought of cheating
on you, to show you how I felt when you did it to. I tend to think how my life would be if I left you.
If you can tell me why I feel this way.I love you and I don't want to leave youand I don't have any
intentions on it. I wish I could write more but everytime i try to write to you and express my feelings I
draw a blank.

That is what she wrote.
What do you think of the truth about her.
Keep in mind that we hardly ever fight we always talk things out.
I'm not physickly abbusive. so thats not the answer.
What is it?Any Ideas?

I've tried to tell her to go because she has every right too but she won't.
She would say no you leave.Then she tells me that she would leave our 2 year old daughter with me because of the way it would be.She would change into a slut.
I really think she doesn't want to be a slut.This is what I sermized.Would you semized this too?Or something different?

Answer 1

Actually good for her. Bad on you…. But good for you for fessing up….

Good for her.. You cheated on her 2x and she forgave you. She may love you quite a lot but now she is tormenting you with the possibility that she may or may have not cheated on you. Way to GO for her, she’s playin with your head and it’s working. Great punishment sorry to say.

NOW, the next step for you to do is… If you want her forever you better start thinking about forever. Buy her an engagement ring ya dope… Sounds like she would make a great mother for your kids…..

Good luck..
Save me a piece of the wedding cake....

Answer 2

because you broke her hart by cheating on her and she said she forgave you.but deep down underneath she is probably hiding her real feelings.she is still in pain and she is trying to hide it .not only from you but also from her self.you have to talk to her about this because it will just keep eating at her.and that sweet loving girl you fell in love with will turn in to a cold harted b*tch and will hold all your cheating mistakes against you forever.even if you say you keep trying to talk to her and she keeps says nothing is wrong.
its not true .you still need to try if you want to keep her.Liston to her no mater how much you think she is dragging it on.you deserve it you cheated and this is your punishment.I'm glad you said you would forgive her if she cheated.but i don't think she would.she fell in love with you,she stud by you each time you hurt her. she wouldn't cheat on you because she loves you and she knows how painful it was for her and she doesn't wont you to feel that kind of pain.
i hope you two work things out and get back on track.its not going to be easy.and its going to take a while.but if you love her its worth it. good luck!

she dosent want to leave she loves you.but what she is saying is that if she maybe thought about it for a while after she found out she just might have left you.but she told you that she forgave you pretty quickly so she didnt realy get to think about it insted she was trying to hold on to you.

i do have one question for you . do you love her ?
and i dont mean like a sister or a person who you use to love .
because to me and probably her to you seem like you are telling her in a nice suttle way that your relationship is over and you want her to move out.
if you love her then dont give her the chance to get away.let her know how you feel.
dont go out and buy her a ring. that wont fix anything.it will only make her feel like you are just trying to buy her off insted of dealing with the subject at hand.maybe if you two start working things out and get back on track .in a few months you might want to get her the ring and show her.but first liston.

Answer 3

start being grateful because a lot of girls would leave their man if they cheated..the fact that she's still with you should be enough..she loves you and she forgives you, she probably realizes that everyone makes mistakes...i say believe your girl, she told you she has thought about it, but went against it because it wouldn't be the right thing to do. also, start doing things to let her know she can trust you and open up to you with spoken words, not written words...

Answer 4

Dude... she forgave you. U still feeling guilty?

I think we all might have thougths from time to time... but sounds to me that you feel like you can't trust her because she shouldn't trust you. Problem is with you - if you can't get over what you've done, then ... well, might be best to let her go now.

Otherwise, your response to her note will be that you understand, and that you realize you can trust her and love that she's renewed her trust in you. OTherwise, without trust, the relationship has no foundation.

Answer 5

Honestly I think your better off as friends your not ready to love just one women your still exploring yourself and what it is you want. Take the time to find out what or who your want. Because you love her but if you have to cheat on her she's not the one for you. Let here move on. And find real happiness.

Answer 6

u r sooooooo lucky to have this girl, u should thank ur God every single day. and do not ever think about cheating on her.
Good luck for u both, i wish u both to be happy in ur lives

Answer 7

it sound you need to be honest with yourself there a reason
that you are cheating on her, time to be deal with this once
and for all. it look like she also feel that way as well just
has not done it yet. you both need to look at this relationship.

Answer 8

I hope she does not cheat on you at all because it will not make things better. In fact, it will make her feel worse about herself. n

Answer 9

Sorry, what's your question?