Sometimes I don't get to see my boyfriend until it's night-time, and all he does is want to sleep. Every time I approach him at night, he groans because he knows I want to talk, and he just wants to sleep... So today I walked out on him and just let him sleep. What's wrong here? I know I shouldn't be selfish and try to get him to talk while he needs to sleep, but why is it that I always feel like I'm begging to communicate with him?
2007-03-07 16:46:24 · 13 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you two need to start making DATES with each other. There needs to be times when the both of you are can reconnect while the outside world just passes by.
Get with your partner and tell let him know that you wish to go out on a date. You, Him, and no outside interference. That way he will be awake, he knows that you want to communicate and he can be ready for interaction.
2007-03-07 16:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Renoirs_Dream 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep the chit-chat for sometime he's not sleeping. It's really frustrating to be woken up, kept up when you have alot of responsibilities. Makes you feel like the person waking you doesn't care about what you have to do. And that they don't respect you.
If it's important, make him agree to some time that you too can talk about it.
Try making more time for eachother, so you won't feel rushed to get in "relationship time" before the day's over. You might think you can't make time for him, but you just have to want it enough.
Just because you can't talk to him while he's sleeping doesn't mean you have bad communication, just bad timing.
2007-03-07 16:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by crimsonsky_bleedingheart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's somewhat the same thing with me...well I see my boyfriend just about all day...however, when we are at my house my mom doesn't stop talking to us and we never get a second to finish a conversation...so when we go to sleep I tend to bring things up a lot...same goes for his house, we don't get a second alone so at night is the only time we can actually talk about anything. Try to set up a different time like during dinner or something...and let him know you need to talk to him so this way he knows and won't get all groany when you start to talk
2007-03-07 17:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex girlfriend who used to do that. Instead of contacting me when I was well rested she's wait until I was dog tired and about to go to bed, and want to talk to me. (and she had a knack for trying to have long conversations with me when I was at my tiredest - for instance, if I'd just come home from a midnight to noon shift and had to get a few hours of sleep before I had to go back to work at midnight!!!)
That was one of the reasons she's my EX girlfriend!!!
You should find a time when your man is well rested and then talk to him. If that means calling him on the phone during his lunchbreak, or holding off on the conversation until the middle of the afternoon on his day off, that's what you're going to have to do.
Your man is tired, and he needs his rest!!
Don't bug him with a major conversation that's going to go on for God knows how long when he needs his sleep so he can go to work tomorrow!!!!
2007-03-07 16:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why not just wait until morning? Someone trying to talk to me about something important when I need sleep is only going to annoy me.
2007-03-07 16:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been on both side of that fence, its funny when you think about it....
I guess finding as opportune moment to talk is really important..... If he did wake up and talk you wouldn't really be getting a headed clear thinking man.....just one that is very tired and dosent want to listen!
Try to make time somewhere else ....
2007-03-07 16:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
give the guy some warning - "hey babe, when you have 15 minutes i need to talk to you about ___" -or- "we need to talk about ___ - when would be a good time for you" - its like communicating to communicate...
You cant just wake a dude up and expect him to be all cheerful and ready to talk. Plus - sounds like you've done this enough that he knows what's coming..... Same action will get same reaction.
2007-03-07 16:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by going_crazy_30m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm on the other side of this shoe.. My ex always tried to talk to me while i was the one trying to sleep,, I think it is because he would be thinking and when he finally got up the nerve to talk i was already sleeping.. I hated it... Your right it's not fair.. Talk to him when he gets home. before he goes to bed... If it is that important to you and you have already gone to bed then set your alarm to talk to him..
2007-03-07 16:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by Shy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at some point you have to explain that,you need good communication for the base of a good relationship
2007-03-07 16:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by johny1punch 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
memories... the only way to work this out is tell him have things on your mind and ask him when you can talk about it. that way he has no reason to complain about the timing
2007-03-07 17:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by spazmffn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋