Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2years. we just had a lil girl. everysince the baby has been here, she has been breakin up wit me off and on alot. i wanna just end it but im scared shes gonna get custidy and im gonna just get visitation once a week. im 20 shes 19. what should i do?
2007-03-07 16:41:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
eh, why are you having children when unmarried?
well since you've got a child, it's your responsiblity to care for it, both of yours. and in this case, it involves bleeding making it work out. g'day.
2007-03-07 16:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by The greatest and the best. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at such a young age she is probably way overwhelmed don't give up on her, you have a baby with her. Many reasons that good relationships fall apart is because people always think of themselves first now a-days. Try and show her your love and appreciation for her. You both sound like good people but you can't give up on your girlfriend or you child so quickly put some effort into making her happy and she in turn will make your life much happier. Good luck and just always be selfless and your life will be better. Baby girls are the best don't let her cuteness go by while your fighting.
2007-03-08 01:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any idea how stressful it is for a young mother? Are you financially supporting your gf and baby? Probably not totally at 20. Do you keep the baby while she spends time with friends or shops? If most of the work is on her she may feel like she has two babies. Also, there's a possibility she has postpartum. If that's the case she needs your support in a huge way. You can either leave like a boy or stay like a man.
2007-03-08 00:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her how you are feeling about all this, or maybe get some counsiling and try to make things work out and fix the difrences before just ending it for the babies sake, If you really don't want to be with her then i guess let her go but if you think you two could make things work if you really tried do it and talk to her about it and counciling would be a really good idea, hope i could help any if you have time help me with one of my problems well bye
2007-03-08 00:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by Brandon D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard it a lot, marrriage is cheaper when having kids. Your goin to need to be able to prove that you can take care of your girl, in the next 2 years you will mature times 5, child comes first establish yourself economically. You can do it.
2007-03-08 00:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by Compa Migue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her stop using the baby against you. The baby needed both parent. And if there a problem,tell her to let you know. Then try to work on it.
2007-03-08 00:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a D umbass!!! you so stupid! you f-ed up 18 years of your life! you have to pay for child support... you should learn from your mistakes if you can... dont have anymore kids till you have lots of money... dump the B itch and start payin for child support.. unless you can get a very good job... then you can tell the judge your able to take care of the kid...
but your screwed either way
2007-03-08 00:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by Random Friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get a place of your own with your daughter a room of her own, have a good job, and prove you are just as good a Father as she is a Mother, you shouldn't have a problem getting joint custody. but a good lawyer is a MUST! good luck!
2007-03-08 00:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by heather l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to break up on good terms like she would be happier with some other guy and like tell her that u still care bout her and u really care bout ur daughter, just try to be as nice as possible
2007-03-08 00:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Hottie w/ a Bottie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about what you feel..and clear things up with her..ask yourself if you still love her..or if you're just staying in your relationship because of your child..it's not fair to you and to your girlfriendif you're staying in your relationship but the love for each other is gone..the best thing to do is to talk to her about the matter and solve it with each other..but it doesn't mean you really have to be together in order to make things work..talk especially about the kid..think of her future..and of her feelings..
2007-03-08 00:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by mountain_laurel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋