i have a gf for 5 yrs and we split last dec. 2006, till now i still love her i dont know why? why i am still thinking of her every second of the day, then i found out that she falls in love with a textmate and said yes to him in the text, they only meet once,i dont know why this kind of feeling is still bothering me, please help ty
2007-03-07 16:40:20 · 9 answers · asked by ybro 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Believe me when I say it’s not your fault.
I have been in the computer business for 20 years and know first hand how relationships are ruined by internet flings. I’ve sold computers to husbands and wives only to find out that a few months later they split on their partner. One customer had five children and the wife left the husband and kids one day while they were at school and work… The woman had NEVER seen the guy because he was in Guam.. Only text with him….
Just be glad that you did not marry her.
It’s going to take awhile for you to get over a five year relationship. Just get back out there and start dating again. Don’t compare other women to the one you lost. It will broaden your possibilities for a happier outcome.
2007-03-07 16:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by Renoirs_Dream 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It not everyday that you spend 5 years with someone and they just up and walk out of you life, and you say OK i forget you and you forget me, no that's not the way if happens, and that why you still think about her you build a life with her. Call her up and ask her is she really in love with this other guy, and if she want to chance a relationship with some one she just me and through aways five year of someone she can trust, if she says she want to be with the other guy, oh well just try and get over her and move on with you life, you will fine someone, but you have to let go of her first.
2007-03-08 00:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by I am women 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about the split with your gf. Recently, one of my good guy-pals split with his gf. She cheated on him, yet he still harbors and tell her of his deep-seated love for her. It is very natural that when you have shared a significant amount of time of you life with someone significant, you will still have feelings. Sometimes even hatred is a feeling of not letting go of what once was. If you've ever watched When Harry Met Sally, there is a scene in which Sally calls her best friend Harry to vent about her ex bf telling her the news that he is engaged to a girl whom he had JUST met. Sally cried and is upset. One would assume that the next person your ex dates is just a *slump-buster*, *the rebound*, and/or *the transitional person*...who knows what she sees in this text-guy. While my current bf recently told me that a girl he went out on just 1 date with (and that didnt work out)-soon called him to announce her engagement to an apparent *a&&hole* of a guy, and hearing my bf b*tch and moan over just what an a** this guy is and why she's engaged to him...only made me wonder if he still was interested in this one-time-date-of-a -girl...Hmmm~. Whatever the reasoning, I wanted to tell him that he shouldn't waste his time festering over this other guy, because two people who are no longer together are no longer together for reasons that probably still exist today. Think about it. Also, girls fall for guys for any and all kinds of reasons. But it doesn't mean that you should stop in your tracks. It's not a bad thing to still love someone you shared a great deal of your life with, but don't waste your energy&time being sad over someone who is not being sad over you. There are a world of girls out there for you. Just remember, YOU are in control. If you get the chance, get the book The Secret, if not-rent it on dvd. It is about The Law of Attraction. The world around you-your life-is attracted and drawn to you by the very thoughts you have in your head. I know it is very difficult to forget about a loved one. I'm not asking you to forget about her, just put her in a different compartment-you can still have fond memories of her. But take this time for YOU. The book is recommended to me by my aunt-who got a tip from Oprah-don't laugh-Oprah is a BILLIONAIRE!
Good Luck!!:)
2007-03-08 00:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man i no exactly how you feel me and my gf jus broke up and she broke up with me and we have been going out for 8 months and planned a life together and everything we wanted to be together forever and all fo a sudden she didnt feel the same, i can not stop thinking about her everyminite and second all i do is think about her.... i want her back i need some advice to well sry i couldnt really help
2007-03-08 00:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Brandon D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you still have feelings for her.. If there is no respond from her, i think it is time for you to move on.. Even though that would be a hard thing to do..
2007-03-08 00:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by Callisto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it normal to feel as you do, you were with her for 5 years that
a long time so your feeling are still there but as time goes
on you feeling will become less visable. and it wont bother
you as much.
2007-03-08 00:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a girl she knows and date her. bring ur date near ur x and start getting all sexual kissing her and what not...but do not look at ur x or she will know u are trying to make her jealous just do u thang and she regret breaking up with a bub
2007-03-08 00:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by ``*Support our Troops*'` 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her u love her and want her back b4 she gets wit the guy. if she wants u back great, if not , at least u let her know and u treid BEFORE ITS TOO LATE THEY COULD WIND UP TOGHETER U WILL BEAT URSELF UP FOREVER!
2007-03-08 00:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it ,let go
2007-03-08 00:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by johny1punch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋