single parent?

Question

I was wondering how many single parents there are out there and why are you single? how are your kids doing without mom/dad always there? Mine is the clasic abuse and cheating case left the man when my son was 8 mon. and he is a very happy little 2 year old

Answer 1

Mine was the same (abuse/cheating) and we split when our child was 4.

He's now a very happy, well adjusted 16 yr old.

I don't think he'd have turned out as well if he lived with his dad. He does have contact with his dad....

Answer 2

Single dad here. My little girl's mom and I split up shortly after she was born. No concrete reason, really...just a lack of compatibility, I guess. Mom and I are great friends and have no problem interacting with each other and co-operatively with our daughter. My daughter senses that something isn't 'normal' (she's 4 and in pre-school), but she hasn't made an issue out of it. She has a clear understanding of 'dad' and 'mom', but is trying to understand why dad and mom aren't together all of the time. It's a bit tough, but it's livable...especially when you compare it to a mom hating a dad or vice-versa, or at worst, both.

Answer 3

i am a somewhat single parent. both of my kids have different dads. my oldest i got pregnant very unexpectedly. but she truly is my angel. Her dad has been in and out of jail and has a lot of legal problems so he's not in the picture. i have tried to have him in her life but i can't force him to see her, if i could i would. it has caused her some problems because he will be back in her life for about a month and then disappear again. he recently got out of jail and he hasn't contacted her since. I haven't told her that he is out because then she will wonder why he hasn't seen her. Whats worse is that he lives in the same small town as us. my son was planned but his father and i just can't make our relationship work. it's been an on and off thing. right now he is living in my house so i am single but i currently have the help at home. My daughter calls him dad and i know know matter what he will always be in their lives.

Answer 4

I got lucky. I have a huge extended family. My boy has problems, he's Bipolar, but I couldn't have made it without my family. My ex was to immature to be a good husband and father, and I was too young (18) to see past my hormones. I would have like to raise him in a traditional home, but I did the best I could. He's not perfect, but He is very loving, (how many 17 year old boys still insist on good-night hugs from their mom) very smart, just not very good in school, and just three steps away from getting his Eagle Scout. He has dreams after high school other than girls and cruising, and expects to achieve them, how ever long it takes. He knows that he is loved, not just by me, but by Grandma, Papa, Ti-Ti, and a dozen other Aunties and Uncles. There are times I want to strangle him, and dealing with his bipolar disorder has been very frustrating and nerve wracking, but I think raising him on my own with my family instead of trying to do it with my ex was the best decision

Answer 5

I separated from my husband (yet to be divorced) two years ago as constant cheating and lying led to the demise of my love for him.
We share custody of our two children (one week on / one week off) and consult each other for anything/everything that concerns the children.
Strangely enough, we get along a lot better now then before and I think we are better parents for it. I'm calmer because I'm happier and he is more hands on because he has to be, and has learned to enjoy them more.
My eldest has never expressed any misgivings about the split, by my youngest (6.5 now) still thinks we should get back together, which is normal!

Answer 6

Fighting. It just slowly kept growing, getting worse each time. Finally noticed what it was doing to the children. I see them all the time, they need me I'm there and they know it. Their mother and I get along better now, but won't go down that road again. Either way they handle it just fine. I won't be one of those "live in court" divorced family. My children know I love them and would die for them. They also know we are both always there. I have had my 1:00 am wake up calls and wouldn't pass it up for the world. My kids are my reason for living.

Answer 7

i am going to be a single mum any day now. i dont know what it is going to be like but i am so excited. i think that my son will do better without the real father. i am 22 and the father is 42, he wants no responsibility.