Lately, my guy has been experimenting with new hairstyles. He's also made more effort to buy nice colognes. Not only has his look changed, but so has his personality. He used to avoid people a lot, too, but now he has become much more social since he went to college. We are in an LDR, so I don't really know what he might be doing when we're not together. While I guess he could be sprucing himself up because his self-esteem has improved or he wants to look good for me the next time I see him, I still feel insecure because I read that sudden changes in style or personality are signs of cheating. Are these changes alone reasone nough for me to worry? Please help!
2007-03-07 16:20:50 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are being compromised by a LDR.
For your wellbeing and your sanity you must end this relationionship because these couplings rarely work.
The fact that the two of you can't work on closeness and intimacy and your ability to share and grow as a couple is hindered, should be enough for you to seek other prospects.
Or, this same person when or if you are ever in closer proximity.
2007-03-07 16:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by Mr realistic...believer in truth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides his sudden interest in how he presents himself to the world, is he doing anything else that is perceived as strange? Sometimes us girls read signs all wrong. I'm in a committed relationship now and just recently, for no other reason besides I wanted to, I began working out and changed my hair and my attire. All that and I haven't even thought about being with anyone else. Maybe that's what's going on with your guy, maybe he needed a change and thought that the best change would be changing little things about himself. The point is, I wouldn't think terrible things and stop trusting him unless there are more signs/things going on besides his looks/personality changing. Definitely speak up though and see if you can get anything out of him to make you feel better. Hope this helps!
2007-03-08 00:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry not to be a prude but instinct tells me, cheating, i do not really know the situation but watch the cell phone bills and look out for hang up phone calls(another big sign) look for reassurances of him saying "I only love you, I would never cheat." Watch for girls coming up to him acting friendly trying to make you jealous. Just sit back and watch and know this is it really worth it to you that you cannot trust him. Think and then perhaps move on.
2007-03-08 00:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, no-one can realy say that he is cheating or not. but my guess would be he is. I was in what i thought was a serious relationship with this quiet hansome guy, till he made new "male" m8s. He started to care more about his physical appearance and his attitutde changed. After we broke up, i found out he cheated. Your story sounds familiar to me. I reckon he is.
2007-03-08 00:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't mean he's cheating. it is a sign if he is. there are other signs, such as hushed phone calls. not answering the phone when you are around. a huge decline in sex. he may seem destracted when you are around him. your best bet is to ask him. "why the sudden change in attire?" or put your two cents in. let him know while he's experimenting, what you would like to see him in. fashion suggestions. does he take notice or disregard your opinion. does he look you in the eye when he talks to you? body language is also a huge factor.
2007-03-08 00:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's definitely trying to to spruce himself up like you said due to more self-esteem. This may or may not lead to him wanting to try out his luck with other girls. If you're worried about it right now, I think your worrying will only get worse. You don't want to put yourself through that...
2007-03-08 04:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by gorgeousbabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships at your age are shaky at best. He could be just maturing, keep in mind that NONE of the 'online experts' can correctly answer this for you. Personalities are different and you are in the best position to observe and made this decision.
2007-03-08 00:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i bet its just a man in collage finding himself ,you know its just as hard for guys to make new friends and maybe changing his hair and tring to improve his look is just a way to find out what hes really into .you should not take this so personally could you imagine if a guy worried about us cheating everytime we changed our styles . you will feel in your gut if hes cheating ,trust yourself
2007-03-08 00:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by tiffanyh2323 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he may just want to start looking better because he is in college & he wants to fit in better but Id be a tad suspitious too.Follow your instincts,,they will never fail you.What concerns me mostly is the personality change.Does he seem any bit more distant from you?
2007-03-08 00:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is LDR? it sounds like he wants to look good for someone to me. Check and see if he bought himself new underwear, this could be a clue.
2007-03-08 00:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋