Am I asking too much of him?

Question

This coming Saturday night I need to be at a very important event for my job. (I am a promotional model and I will be fired if I don't show up). I don't have a car right now because I live in the dorms at college in a different city. I wasn't able to take my car along. I have no other form of transportation late at night, so I asked my boyfriend if he would take me there and pick me up. He flat out refuses. He said he will drive me there but not come get me when I'm done. He said he's "not a taxi". I think he's being very unfair. Am I really asking too much, or is he a bad boyfriend?

He told me he does not have plans for Saturday. He just doesn't want to come get me later.

We have been together for over 3 years.

Answer 1

Find a new boyfriend...

Answer 2

I am not sure the question is whether he is a bad boyfriend or not. I (being around the same age) would also not wanted to be used as a taxi. Men (most people) don't like to feel as if they are being used for a ride.

Maybe you could ask him to go out to dinner before (even if you have to eat light if your event involves eating), or maybe a movie (make sure you will have enough time afterwards to get to the event).

You could also offer him a reward, in the form of a night doing something he enjoys (video games, partying, something you normally wouldn't do with him). I feel relationships are all about giving and receiving, so if you give him a "reward" for helping you out, it may go over better.

Also look into maybe having a roommate, friend, or maybe public transportation.

Good luck and I hope you make it to and from your event without incident!

Answer 3

If he doesn't have other plans, then yes, he is being unreasonable. Why can' t he pick you up so you two can hang out later? It is nice of him to drive you to the gig, but his response was rude. Maybe he feels you take him for granted, even if that wasn't your intention. Let him know that you appreciate the favor, and he might come around. Otherwise, ditch him. You deserve someone who will be there when you need it and support your goals. While you are asking for a big favor, I do not think you are asking too much. I am in a similar situation as you (carless in college), and the guys I've dated have usually been willing to give me rides to different places. There are nice people out there who will be more accomodating. As long as you are thankful and you offer to help the other person out with you can, there's nothing wrong with asking your bf for rides.

Answer 4

I guess it all depends if he had already made other plans. If he had, then I don't think it's unfair of him not to break them to pick you up. If he's not doing anything, I would think he'd rather come get you then have you alone at night in a different city. If he's a student too, maybe it's an issue with gas money if he's out of that city also? Maybe offering to pay for the gas would help?

Answer 5

Ummm... Well, it depends

Does he have other plans???

I mean you're not the only most important thing/person on this planet. The world doesn't revolve only around you!

It' s very nice of him to bring you. You should say thanks and grab a taxi back. Who knows, you being grateful might make him want to consider doing it for you again another time.

But if you get mad at him, well, I don't blame him for saying he's not a TAXI. I mean, he can do it if he wants but there shouldn't be any obligation.

It sounds like you're not asking him to bring you, you're telling him to bring you. And that's wrong.

Good luck!

Answer 6

You are not asking too much, he is being a jerk! If this is for your careers sake he should be all for taking you and picking you up, your career is important for your and his future. If you 2 plan to stay together does he want an unemployed girlfriend or one with a career? When it comes to important things like that my boyfriend will be willing to do anything it takes to help me especially if my butt is on the line and I could be fired.

Answer 7

There's got to a be good reason in there some where, but the way you described it sounds like hes being a jerk. It might just be that he doesnt have the money for gas since its constantly rising. Offer to pony a little for gas and see what his actions are. If he still says no, then hes just being a jerk.

Answer 8

I truly believe that when it comes to someone that I care about, I will do anything in my power to help them when they need it....when people do these kinds of things, I find myself asking...if they won't be there for me for this, what else won't they support me in?
If he already had plans, maybe he could rearrange them...but if they were in place, maybe you could just take a taxi.
From what you told us, he doesn't sound very supportive or giving...good luck!

Answer 9

i think that he is being a bad boyfriend, if he doesn't care if you get fired or not! think of how hard it would be for you to lose your job because your boyfriend refused to take you when you needed him too? i hate to jump in ike that, but i would talk to him about that.

Answer 10

He's an *** and he obviously doesn't care about your safety.You're ARE NOT asking too much!! Dump the moron! Find some nerdy guy who'll adore you and marry him; at least he'll be reliable and trustworthy!! Plus then moron-guy will know that it's brains, not looks that matter. Good luck with your job.

Answer 11

He's being a guy. He doesn't want to come across as being too nice so he can maintain his ego. I tell ya, say alright and suck it up. Once he sees you don't need him he'll think twice again. Guys act on strength, so use it girl.