I really do love my boyfriend of 2 yrs. ...when i first met him he was amazing, the sweetest guy in the world, i mean literally Mr. Wonderful!... but for almost a year now...he hasn't really been that guy...i think he's really being mean to me...he treats other people WAY better than he treats me...and he yells at me often and never has anything good to say about me...making me alwayz feel down about myself...i do not deserve this after all i've done for him that no one would ever of done... i talk to him about it but he never wants to talk about it....but he still can be sweet a times and makes me laugh too...I REALLY DO LOVE HIM and he always says he loves me
...but my question is...
everytime we're on the phone & I tell him i love him... i cry...
why do i cry? (i do not think its a happy cry...but i'm not lying about loving him either)....so why do i cry after i tell him i love him???
2007-03-07 16:11:28 · 13 answers · asked by *Gina* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That time of the month?
Keep in mind you never actually know who someone is until you date them for a year or more, this person you don't like to see in him IS HIM... the person you fell in love with was just an image projected to get you interested. Only time tells you who a person is.. not your perceived dream... Love doesn't mean a thing... Actions dictate who and what you are... not what you say and how often you make someone laugh..
You gotta ask yourself. do I REALLY love THIS GUY or do I love what he originally projected.. I think you know the REAL answer to that question and that's why your crying... you spent a lot of time and effort into something that hasn't turned out the way you dreamed it would be.
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2007-03-07 16:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by Mike M 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe you cry when you tell him you love him because you believe in one of the most reliable tests of people's honesty & true intentions-----actions speak louder than words. His actions do not say "I love you". And your tears may be a result of the pain from believing deep down that he's not in love with you anymore. And, quite honestly, you may not be in love with him anymore either, even if you do REALLY LOVE HIM. Always remember, some relationships are only for a season. I hope this response isn't too harsh, but it sounds like this relationship has run its course. Invest time in strengthening and/or rebuilding your self esteem and take care of yourself. You did acknowledge that you don't deserve such treatment. This is a sign that you know deep down he is wrong. And, you're right---you do not deserve it. I wish you the best!!
2007-03-07 17:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by Naive Unintentions 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may feel like you love him but you just feel you need to love him because you've been together so long. Give him the test, tell him you need some time apart. To collect your thoughts and find out who you really are and what you really want. Go out with some girlfriends and have some fun. But do not let him tear you down. You just might find out you really are better off with out him.
2007-03-07 16:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i think u need to give the relationship a break, dont see other people,u just need a break from him, so he can realize what hes got.... mr wonderful is still in there somewhere...but people do change,and u can change also,ur feelings about some1, ur personality,and realizing things u just wont put up with anymore. if ur not happy deep down,dont settle...u need to be happy,thats all that matters,im not saying break up and stay split up,but u need to think.... do i deserve to cry??....y does someone who loves me say harsh things to me?? please take all these into consideration,and put YOU first.
2007-03-07 16:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by bostonzerosix 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you cry because you loved who he used to be, and you cry because of the way he treats you and because of the way the relationship is now. You probly deserve better then this, and maybe it`s time to let him go!!!
2007-03-07 16:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by Goth Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cry because youre a pyscho.
Maybe if you stopped nagging him about everything, or let him go hang out with his friends alone, or if you went out without him sometimes, hed have something to talk about? or maybe hed have something nice to say?
He probably still loves you, even though he probably hates you at the same time.
People dont ever give each other enough space, and sooner or later you run out of new things to tell each other.
Just chill, maybe go out with some of your girlfriends or family members, and dont ***** about him hanging out with the guys.
Then you can see that you love being around each other, just as long as its not every hour of every freaking day.
2007-03-07 16:16:13 · answer #6 · answered by Thats me...A to the D 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you cry because you feel/think you are losing the man you love. that he is becoming something far less than he was. try talking it out with him and get him to come clean about his feelings and if necessary, maybe counseling together.
2007-03-07 16:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can love someone and not be IN love with them...it sounds like you're in an abusive, unfair relationship that you don't need to be in...when you say that you do not deserve it, that's great! you are able to admit to yourself that it isn't right! Good for you!!! Best of luck to you!
2007-03-07 16:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like he was someone that you thoght was mr, everything, but no person is, but you know now that he
does not respect you,the way that he should that why you
feel as you do. you need to let him know how you feel
about his behavior or time to move on.
2007-03-07 16:17:22 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
becuase u think he dosent care when guys act like that they eitherd thought about dumping u or he found someone esle trust me i know he dosent want to break up with u becuase he dosnet want to hurt u so thats why hes being ****** up to u becuase he wants u to break up with him OR he changed
2007-03-07 16:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋