I have a boyfriend of 2 and half years. We allllll got realllllllyyyyyy drunk and I tried to kiss his best friend. I felt horrible and wanted to die! I finally told him because I wanted to be honest with him, because I love him. I didnt kiss the guy because he wasnt THAT drunk... When I told my boyfriend he flipped out.... He wont kiss me anymore, he treats me like shitttt!!!!, a while back there was this ex g/f that wouldnt leave him alone and I got her to leave us alone. But now since I hurt him he is threatening to talk to her again and he's threatening to talk to other girls that use to linger and just doing stupid stuff to hurt me. I dont know what to do, he's making me hurt inside like I havent hurt in so long... I didnt kiss the guy and I WAS THE ONE WHO CAME CLEAN... shouldnt he respect me for that? Shouldnt he forgive me? I didnt do anything, I told him I would quit drinking, make it up to him as long as it took! He's being immature about this! What do I do? Im hurting so bad
2007-03-07 16:09:41 · 4 answers · asked by Omission is betrayel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do not believe its the acuall act of kissing or in this case not kissing someone else. It's the betrayal. Its self esteem/jealosy(why doesnt she want me, why dont i make her happy) its trust(will she do it again) it could possiblly be even more than all this because i dont know excatly how he feels. Have you talked to him about his feeling about this( not just im sorry and i wont do it again) but really try to find out what he has a problem with i.e. not trusting you or the thought of you wanting someone else. Then go from there but realise that either way it will take time. Look at it from his perspective, if he had tried to kiss a friend of yours and told you how would you feel.
On the other side, there should never be reason enough to treat someone you love in a way that purposely hurt them. I doubt his intentions are to hurt you but more a reaction to feeling he cant deal with.
My suggestion to you is first give it some time to heal , next is to make attempts at gaining trust back, talk to him about your feelings( not just that your mad or wont do it again, although that is important for him to hear ) more along the lines of how this has made your relationship change and where you want the relationship to go. decide on what steps you two should take to get your relationship back, make goals and stick to them.
Lastly i would say look at yourself and why you would try to kiss that person, was it out of nowhere because of drunkenness or was there something behind it.
hope i was of some help at least. Good Luck to you and your relationship.
2007-03-07 17:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by jonathan p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing has really happened and in 2 1/2 years he should be able to trust you enough to know it was never taken to any level.
Omission, alcohol does have a tendency to make us a little more friendly and you should quit - but if you do, make sure your guy is near.
Over the past, I have learned that if I had a guy that had so much control over my feelings that he could make me feel like i did something wrong when I didn't, I made myself strong enough to leave him. This isn't healthy in a relationship either. Good Luck to you honey - and know that you are important!!
2007-03-07 16:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by hot single mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being a total jerk.
Leave him, saying that you regret that he can't forgive you, but you understand completely. (This should be a lie; if you really do understand, you're being too hard on yourself.)
2007-03-07 19:28:00 · answer #3 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get rid of you, you ****ed up bad
2007-03-07 16:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by Will W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋