my relationship with my boyfriend is good right now. he is very sweet and considerate now, but back then, he wasn't. we have a long history (1-2 yrs) of being up & down. one day he changed and later wanted to marry me but I dumped him for half a year because I wasn't ready. afterwards, we tried to make it work but he broke it off. he then moved on with another girl but he kept seeing me, and she wouldn't put out so he lied to me by telling me he was going to dump her, to get sex from me. I regret what I did till this day. Anyway he was a jerk to her and she dumped him (after a month). but he still didn't want a relationship with me and started dating someone else. That girl was too aloof though so he later decided that he wanted a relationship with ME. Now he is so sweet and just... perfect. The thing is, our past isn't anywhere NEAR perfect. I enjoy my time with him SO MUCH, but sometimes when I'm alone, the past haunts me so bad that I start crying out of nowhere.
WHAT SHOULD i DO??
2007-03-07 16:08:18 · 8 answers · asked by aMeNa_aCid* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should get smart and realize as many girls he has used or tried to in the past and just come to you for sex, he is a poster boy for the gentlemen's jackass award. He is nice to you alright! Nice enough to use you until he finds someone to play around with(if he isn't doing so right now behind your back). You need to dump him and learn to recognize when guys are users and when they are genuinely nice guys. A sweet and perfect guy isn't just good in bed, he also knows how to respect women. THIS GUY DOESN'T RESPECT YOU OR ANY OTHER FEMALE!
2007-03-07 16:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want it to work, and things are going well now, you are going to have to try to keep the past in the past. Bringing up these things isn't going to help make the relationship better. If he is really this great, maybe he has grown up and decided he wants a life with you. You need to be ready for it though. With any relationship, you can't bring your past into it, even though it isn't always easy. Try concentrating on the great things that are going on right now and not thinking about the past. It's over and can't be changed. You don't have to have the perfect past to make it a perfect relationship now!
2007-03-07 16:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear what you are saying. It is sort of the same with my BF and I. (Sort of...) We dated for some months, then broke up, then got back together. In that time, I was trying to move on-but only in the sense of keeping busy making new friends to try and forget about him. During our breakup, I had seen him a few times-which in those times, we were close and intimate-but still not together. After we got back together, I randomly found out that he had asked out 3 other girls in the time we were apart. I was very hurt-thinking that if I was anything important to him, he wouldnt have gotten over me THAT fast to ask that many girls out very soon after our split. Since we've gotten back together, things have been hot& cold-like your situation. I think if you are thinking about whether or not to get back togther with someone, it is SO important to have honest/open communication with each other. You have to identify all your past issues to see if they are still in existence and/or if they might resurface. If you two can at least communicate and resolve things without relapsing into your old routines and negative-issues, then that is one step closer to being into a newfound healthy relationship. For me, in relationships-things seem easier if it is black and white. If there are too many grey-areas, it leaves more room for uncertainty and unwanted things to happen. If you both can recognize what areas of your past relationship need work, make a mental note of what things you each need to improve on as individuals and what you can bring to the relationship to better it, and how and what things you can BOTH work together on to move forward-it will happen.
2007-03-07 16:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all the past is too much, get out. But, if he truly has decided you are the one he wants, you need to be sure HE is the one YOU want- there's a quote " In love, please yourself for no-one else will" That DOESN'T mean masturbation, it means that you have to completely know your own heart and mind, 'cause no-one else'll do it for you. Take the relationship SLOW to ensure he really is as perfect as he seems, and that way, if he slips into old habits, you won't have poured your heart, soul and time into something that ain't built to last. Plus, don't be too "available"- make him work to prove that he is in it for the long haul.
2007-03-07 16:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by chikensnsausages 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not love you. You are his fall-back girl. Get out of this relationship and never see him again. You enjoy time with him because you have grown accustomed to him. You can develop feelings for anyone, no matter how much a bum they are. Run away from this creep before it's too late.
2007-03-07 16:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by spockofvullcan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the reason he is acting like that is because he doesnt want to loose the girl who is always there no matter what. how do u he's not doing the same thing he did last time?? let go you can do better you deserve better.!
2007-03-07 16:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by LoryAnne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly...it sounds like he's despirate, and it sounds like he's a jerk...if you feel like you're in love, you should make your own decision...in any case you must choose your own path and walk it...in the end it's always the right choice b/c you made it...Best of luck to you!
2007-03-07 16:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy today.
2007-03-07 16:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋