About the WAY too popular sex before marriage question??

Question

This isn't really a question, more like a rant, however... This is for the people who say "Sex before marriage is okay if you love the person."

... Okay, first off, let's use our heads here... Teenagers go through about 50 people that they "truly love" before they even get out of high school!! How can you give that type of advice to these people??

When I was 10 I loved Jonathan Taylor Thomas!! Does that mean if I had wanted to have sex with him because I "loved" him that it would have made it okay??

We all know that lust is all too commonly thought of as love these days, and I really don't think that some of you people should be giving that type of advice to people that ask for answers..

By the way... How would you guys feel if someone on here was giving the same kind of advice about pre-marital sex to your children??

I agree that children should be taught the do's and dont's of sex anyways, I'm not against that in any sense of the imagination.

But if in God's word he tells us not to do this, how can we say "It's okay if you love them...."

Morias: I disagree. Marriage is about your commitment to each other not about how good or bad sex is. Sex is a gift between partners and should be cherished as such.

If you wouldn't marry someone because they "aren't good" then you have some major maturing to do...

Thank you to the VERY FEW number of people who actually got the point of my message!! Trust me, I so wish I could give out about 5 best answers right now.. So if your answer has the same basis as the person I give best answer, please know that you should also have gotten a best answer!

Answer 1

Casual sex, like recreational drug use, is one of the most destructive habits any person can develop. It is the best way to pick up one of about 100 STD's, which can cripple and kill. Several of them have NO CURE. Beyond STD's, what about broken hearts and crushed hopes? Any serious discussion of love and sex needs to include some intelligent morality, or else it is a handbook for disaster. We expect young people to study, think hard, get guidance, and pass a test before allowing them a driver's license. Why not demand some responsibility from people before giving them the keys to their sex drive?

Here is a thought: if Drug Resistance Education was taught the same way as Sex Education is, it would look something like this:

"Ok Children, I hope you never do drugs. I personally don't do drugs, but the choice is ultimately up to you, and I can't judge your choice. Drugs should really only be prescribed by a doctor, but in case you find something on the street, I want you to be fully informed of what you may find.

Here on the table we have some common street drugs. This is marijuana; people smoke this either in pipes or home-made cigarettes. I'll show you how to roll those later. This is cocaine; it is smoked in a pipe. Yes, Bobby, this is the correct pipe for smoking cocaine. This is heroin, and a syringe used in injecting it. Yes Marissa? Yes, dear, I can show you how to find a vein later..."

Scary, huh? I hope I've made my point.

BTW, I'm not against sex. I just want people to treat it, and themselves, with the respect both deserve.

Answer 2

First of all

No 10 year olds should be having sex! WHERE ARE THE PARENTS??? Are they to busy watching Jerry Springer to actually try parenting?

Secondly once a person is an adult who are YOU or any religious nut to say what sexual practices they should or should not have? So long as they are not going after children or animals WHO CARES!

Perhaps if you spent less time worrying about other peoples sex lives you life would be more interesting and you wouldn't need to try and sit in judgement over the world!

Answer 3

Ok you can get off your soap box now. First of all teenagers shouldn't be sleeping around but young adults over 18 who are in a committed relationship can have premarital sex if they choose to. If you are saying to wait until marriage this is a mistake and could lead to divorce, if you are not sexually compatible with your partner. I know that the Christians dont agree but sorry, everyone has a right to their opinion and beliefs and this is mine. I am not going to teach my children that casual sex is ok but at the same time I am not going to preach about waiting. I am going to tell them the pros and cons and let them decide what is best for them.

Answer 4

I understand what you are saying and agree. Just b/c you have sex organs doesn't mean that you are qualified to use them. Kidding, on some level. I think people aren't thinking about the importance of sex, they are only considering the how good it will feel. The big question is how do you make some thing like "emotional connection" important to people?

Answer 5

Wait until marraige. If u give all the goods up now. Then what will you future husband have to look forward too. Plus all this pre maritial sex is causing the Aids virus to increase by the thousands.

Answer 6

No, because you aren't an adult with your full faculties yet. Thats why it wouldn't be ok. But, once you're an adult, you have enough experience behind you that you should be intelligent enough to understand full what could happen and be responsible enough to actually deal with it if it does come up.

Once you're an adult, you can make your own choices and it IS ok if you love each other.

I'd be fine with someone telling my kids that so long as they make it clear that kids aren't ready to be having sex.

Sex is as important to a relationship as an emotional and mental attachment. Better to know that the person sucks before marriage than to marry them and have it cause years and years of havoc in your relationship.

Answer 7

What do you perceive as being wrong with premarital sex? As long as they're responsible and use protection, why should it bother you?
Judging from your copied and pasted answers, your objection is purely religious. Why don't you grow up and accept that you don't live in a theocracy? Not everyone wants to live their lives based on a set of ridiculously outdated rules under the authority of an imaginary being. Some people have 'morality' and are able to make their own decisions.

Answer 8

Make your own choices, and move on.

Why do you care about other people's personal choices? Yeah, it sucks when teens get pregnant and we have to pay for it. I think that is more a problem of their parents thinking religion will win out over the hormones so they fail to teach their children about birth control.

That is an excellent answer, Rob Diamond. Very well put.

Answer 9

Lets separate pre-marital sex and underage sex.

Pre-marital sex is common sense.

Underage sex is stupid.

Get out of your parents house, get your own job and home and do as you will. Its one thing to have a kid (if that happens) when your emotionally and financially capable of dealing with it.

Its another to have a kid when your still a teenager putting that burden on your parents.

Not to mention the issues of STDs and things of that ilk.

Answer 10

Kids will have sex no matter what we tell them. That's a fact of life. If we want to protect them and keep them safe, the best way to do that is to be honest and open with them, to encourage them to tell us about their relationships rather than scaring them into keeping them secret, and to give them as much information to work with as possible. Only if they're doing something that directly harms themselves and others should we step in to put a stop to it; otherwise, they really need to learn this stuff for themselves, or they won't be able to function as adults. The job of parents is to assist in that (very slow) transition as much as possible, not to try to shield their children from the real world forever.

Telling kids "don't have sex until you're really ready" is fine; but (1) we shouldn't stop there, but should go on to explain safe sex to them just in case; and (2) we shouldn't force our own specific religious views on them by commanding them regarding when they're "ready". Only individuals can ultimately decide whether they are or aren't "ready" for sex. And yes, they'll make mistakes in that regard. But that's the only way they'll learn.