I have a great job, the fellow I am seeing is rarely employed, I love to study, read, and do numerous activities, yet his favorite past time is watching TV, I have goals and he seems to have few, yet in spite of all this negativeness, I am drawn to him. I am really disgusted with myself. What steps can I take to move on? Thank you for your thoughts. Jen.
2007-03-07 15:51:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well there must be something about the guy you like
2007-03-07 15:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats your relationship like? Have you ever tried talking with him... like actually talking to him?
Sitting down having a conversation about each others interests cause you may just find out that he has quite afew goals and interests himself its just that your too busy in wanting to get over him cause you think hes just worth watching tv.
There is obviously something there 4u that keeps you there.How about giving the relationship a try first. Yknw? There is no use in trying to get over someone that you feel you dont have anything in common with cause trust me I have tried that with this guy that I'm seeing & it does not work and yknw what it turned out for the better. When we got talking it turned out that we had alot in common then I had realised and now.... I've found out the real reason why I'm still here with him and thats because we do have a spark it just took alittle bit longer then I expected.
So dont break up with him because of that cause chances are if you did and you saw him walking down the rd with another chick & they were having a great time you'd be wishing or thinking why wasnt he like that with me? And you'll knw the reason because you never gave him a chance.
So stick around mate cause you may just be happy with the outcome.
Good luck and take it easy mate :D
2007-03-07 16:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are drawn to him because he probably has qualities that are opposite to you. In this case they aren't the right kind of opposite qualities. If you get serious with this guy, it will drive you crazy. Chances are, he won't change and you will continue to be very motivated. If you don't see him as a marriage possibility then why waste your time. Tell him that you have really enjoyed the time with him, but that you are looking for someone with your same level of motivation. Honesty is usually the best. And remember, the reason we date is to find out if the guy/girl is worth marrying, sounds like you've figured that out already so move on. You sound like a really smart, and "together" girl, so don't settle!!!
2007-03-07 15:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by katiebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe instead of ending it since you seem to like him a lot, you can encourage him to do other things, get a great job doing something he loves, and make some goals for himself. You never know, maybe he just needs a good woman to push him in the right direction!! If that doesn't work, be honest and tell him the reasons you have for feeling he isn't right for you but that you would consider changing your mind if he get's with it!! If he doesn't care enough about you to change somethings he needs to anyway, then he isn't worth it. Good Luck!
2007-03-07 15:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by heather l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! ive recently bought a book written by one of the girls from the bachelor titled " better single than sorry". it tells u right off the bat Go with ur instinct, if he has more qualities u can careless about then qualities u like,maybe u shouldnt be involved at all, u are way 2 important to just let "some guy",waste ur time. its o.k. to be single,and again it is good to have a companion (relationship),but some1 u click with in all levels,and makes u happy. i dont know ur personal history with this guy, but dont think for once u need to stay, there are many men out there,even though we dont see it with our eyes, hes out there. just maybe it isnt the right time..... hopefully ive helped,take care.
2007-03-07 16:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by bostonzerosix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either focus on the good things you like about him,
or
end the relationship now, because its not fair to him that you are thinking like this, even if it breaks his heart. If you really don't want to be with him, then don't be with him. Be honest. Tell him out front.
2007-03-07 15:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jordan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems that you already feel superior to him. If you feel like you are settling then find others with the same interests as you and let him go..
2007-03-07 15:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Interpreted 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing him. Do not take his calls do not call him. do not go out with him do not make idle small talk with him when you find yourself daydreaming or thinking about him get up and go do something to take your mind off of him If you want to stop seeing a guy, just stop seeing him. Simple isn't it?
2007-03-07 15:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find someone else who catches your interest. This is the best way to take your mind off of the loser guy.
2007-03-07 15:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what to say.
Some people give you certain vibes.
It's hard to ignore what your attracted to.
Ever tried to pull 2 magnets apart that were attracted to each other?
2007-03-07 15:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋