my relationship with my boyfriend is good right now. he is very sweet and considerate now, but back then, he wasn't. we have a long history (1-2 yrs) of being up & down. one day he changed and later wanted to marry me but I dumped him for half a year because I wasn't ready. afterwards, we tried to make it work but he broke it off. he then moved on with another girl but he kept seeing me, and she wouldn't put out so he lied to me by telling me he was going to dump her, to get sex from me. I regret what I did till this day. Anyway he was a jerk to her and she dumped him (after a month). but he still didn't want a relationship with me and started dating someone else. That girl was too aloof though so he later decided that he wanted a relationship with ME. Now he is so sweet and just... perfect. The thing is, our past isn't anywhere NEAR perfect. I enjoy my time with him SO MUCH, but sometimes when I'm alone, the past haunts me so bad that I start crying out of nowhere.
WHAT SHOULD i DO??
2007-03-07 15:46:17 · 7 answers · asked by aMeNa_aCid* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let it go, girl. It's played out! A snake is a snake no matter how long it takes him to change.
2007-03-07 16:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by DARMADAKO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where should I start? If this man changed for the better I would be happy, but if you can't seem to let go of the past then you need to move on. I think you should hold on to him because you influenced him into becoming a man. Why let that go? You had great patience to put up with it and I commend you for that. Stop being an emotional wreck and suck it up and be that strong woman that you are.
2007-03-07 15:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by LT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its too complicated to be solved here at Y/A because it involves too many unresolved issues . You might not like it and he might be offended but I think if you're really serious about making the relationship work, both of you should consider undergoing couple therapy. Get everything out in the open, voiced out doubts and confusions, start anew. Good luck.
2007-03-07 16:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by aishah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to be with him knowing everything yous two been through, you are going to have to let go of the past and enjoy your present together.
2007-03-07 15:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by gr33n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u really want to be together, like they say - If There Is A Will, There Is A Way.
2007-03-07 15:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by MISSinterpreted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like this relationship has too much baggage &
bad history to succeed...
Move on and find a new b/f.
2007-03-07 15:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say to stop the worry and to end the paranoia and the unworthy,worthless you and your boyfriend had together, get out of that situation i wouldnt even consider being lonely and troubled in a not so peaceful situation and past
2007-03-07 15:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋