unruley child at 6 what can i do?

Question

i have have conversations with him on a daily basis about his choices he ,akes in school.he is 90% of the time on red the lowest color for talking but latley it has increased to pointing his finger like a gun at students and his teachers in class hes only in kindergarden.ive done the time out the removal of privledges the begging and pleading he does understand right from wrong on his level,however he just says rules are dumb i dont have to listen good bye forever,today he was in iss for punching another student in his class,hes been seeing a bahavior thearipist for a year now but the same type of converstations happen6 out of 7 nughts,im always waiting for school to call to see what he did this time ,he told his teacher id beat the pants off him and i had not laid a finger on him.his thearpist replies that he will no longer talk to me he just says okay to whatever she says in order for an adult to leave him alone. i relize hes spoiiled,but he just refuses to make any changes

he does not respond to pop on the bottom.the seeds i was sowing was in time attention and being there for him at all times,so just stating you reep what you sow,i was only trying to let him know he was wanted,loved and cared for,now it would seem like he cares only forhimself regardless of consquences,beating a child the their butt blisters is illeaga anf im not going to be put in jail for that.i was hoping that someone out there might have any new or useable tactics to make him understand that we all have rules,there to followe or suffer the consequences.I do love him and tell him every day i will always love you regardless if your behavior in school is correct or not,yet he continues to be on the lowest card for behavior,but the highest acedemically.so now he says your a d-e-a-d- m-o-m see you never im broken hearted and full of disappointment.why wont he just follow the rules in class he can recite them word for word but wont.

Answer 1

Well honey as soon as you find out please let me know. I have a son 6 just turned 7 today. He is going to turn me prematurely gray. One thing I do know( I have 2 other young children also, who are not as challenging) teach with love. You know we tend to forget they are just little ones. Try to be constistant. And having children is all about repeating yourself 1000x a day. It will eventually work. Us adults express ourselves any way we want to, but children are punished for being a little eccentric, doesn't seem right. My son knows no matter what he cannot chase me away I will love him NO MATTER what he does. I am always their for him. Let your son know you are in it for the long haul, he can't get rid of you so he might as well stop trying to test you. Funny behavior therapists and counslers, how many have children, or children that misbehave. Someone who is not in your exact position is unable to help you, they will never understand. Good Luck, I hope it works well for you. God Bless you and your son.

Answer 2

Spanking is not the answer! try rewarding him for ANY and ALL good behavior. so many parents these days want to spank a child for every thing they do. but do they also acknowledge the good things their child does in such a manner? granted my son has ADHD and other behavior disorders, but i manage very well by focusing on praise rather than punishment. i make a bigger deal out of every good and thoughtful thing he does.

Answer 3

What you sow so shall you reap!! He didn't get spoiled on his own and you say that he is spoiled as if that should make it ok!! You say in your last line that he refuses to change!! He's six years old he shouldn't be asked he should be told this is how it is going to be!! He shouldn't have any room to refuse. You are the parent he is the child he needs to have rules and boundaries!! Children who have firm rules are actually happier!!

Answer 4

I believe in spanking. My opinion take him somewhere in private. Tell him this is what you are going to get EVERY time you act up in class. Bare his bottom put him over your knee and blister his little bottom. Be consistent with it. I think it will make a difference.

Answer 5

maybe counseling is good for him, but I believe in tough love, not too tough-just enough to know you are the boss.

Answer 6

Why is it that your not spanking him? you say you will to the teacher and then dont... why? you should have whipped him long ago... even if itz a spanking everyday...