I have one big problem... Can you help?

Question

I have an ex-boyfriend that bothers me. We broke up 8 months ago. For one BIG reason. He was so immature, he started smokin and drinkin all the time with his so called friends who just wanted to get him to do something stupid to get himself in trouble. We had nothing in common, and I thought I was in love with him but I was his babysitter. He would make it so hard for me to break up with him, if I wasnt with someone else I would believe his lies and go back to him. He would talk to girls on myspace all the time!!! So I found a MAN with potential to be perfect for me, (8 months March 22 and loved everyday of it). Well back to the problem. He has called me EVERYDAY for 8 months. I now hate him with a passion and I am sorry but I hate him so much that if he died tomorrow, I would laugh. He does immature things to try and make my life miserable. I have a really bad temper, and I go off on him all the time! I dont have 36 dollas to change my #. I need help dealing with this ASAP.

I just turned 18 and I don't wanna get myself in TROUBLE!!!!

Answer 1

Go to your local courthouse and go to the clerk of courts office, ask them for the papers to file a restraining order on him. In the papers it will ask you to explain what he is doing, basically he is stalking and harassing you, Once you file the papers a judge will look at it that day and decide whether or not to issue a temporary restraining order. If he does issue the temporary order, a court date will be set up and you both will have to go to court to tell the judge what is going on. Then the judge will decide whether or not you have a case, if you do, he will issue the order for anywhere from 1 year to 3 years.

Answer 2

I hate to say this but I think you are acting immature when you 'go off on him'.

This is as serious problem that needs to be stopped. I would suggest you tell your parents about the situation and get their advice. There are too many teens gone berserk incidents happening today. You need to make your parents aware of the situation and then let your mom or dad answer your phone next time he calls. Let them tell him that if he does not leave you alone you are going to file a police report for harassment.

Get your parents involved. I don't think changing your phone # is the answer. He will still be able to find you if he wants to.

Just be the mature one and when you run into him let him know you are not interested in continuing the conversation or the relationship and to please leave you alone. Then just walk away. No need to create a scene.

If it continues go to the police and ask about filing a complaint. I hope things work out well for you. Good luck in your new relationship.

Answer 3

Boy, you are having fun now. I don't know what guys think when they act like this but I would say maybe he's enjoying the attention, even if it's negative attention. I'd say block his number or just don't answer when he calls but I suspect this won't stop him at least for awhile.
If you have any kind of relationship w his family members, sibling or parent, maybe talking to them would help. This guy needs help and maybe they could encourage him to leave you alone and move on.
I'm not sure what kind of things he's doing to make your life miserable but if he's messing w your job or anything that could really cause you difficulties I'd go ahead and get a restraining order as others have recommended. It seems extreme and is a pain in the butt but it would send him the message that you've seriously had enough.
I wish you luck, be careful and don't assume he's harmless, you just don't know what someone like this might be capable of.

Answer 4

My daughters creepy ex boyfriend calls her 25 times a day. It drives me insane. We will be out for dinner and he calls 5 times. They just yell at each other all the time. I have made her promise not to anwer his calls when we are together. Now if I could just get her to not answer his calls all the time. But since she keeps answering he still has a hold on her even though all they do is yell at each other. In other words the easiest way to stop him from calling is to just not answer. His numbershould show up on your cell and get caller ID for home. If he doesn't leave you alone after you stop answering you may need to go to the police. eople like this can do some pretty crazy things.

Answer 5

Just tell him it's over and that's that. If he calls don't answer, and if you do answer hang up. He'll get the point after a while and finally give up. Most men have a shallow ego and won't take rejection for too long. Besides if he keeps calling after all that because he's that much of a loser all you have to do is file a police report for harassment. Either way, he'll leave you alone one way or another.

Answer 6

What? You don't have $36 to change your number? BORROW it from someone, and pay it back a buck at a time. C'mon. Also, call the police and file a restraining order. I don't know what else to tell you - no one can help you if you're not willing to help yourself.

Answer 7

Do not answer his calls, or acknowledge him at all. If he continues to phone you or shows up at your home or anything like that then you need to go to the poice and report that he's harrassing you.

Depending on where you live he might be prevented from contacting you or the crime victims program in your local station will have your number changed for you

Answer 8

Girl ur still young, you just can't get stuck with one man, experience the world, the guys. Have fun, but be careful cause this one sounds like a stalker.

Answer 9

You were his babysitter?

Anyways, if your ex-bf does anything to you or even makes a threat, get a restraining order from him. I doubt changing your number would do anything because he knows where you live

Answer 10

Ignore him. By continuing to give him attention you reinforce his actions so that he feels assertive in taking the same ones in the future.