My dear sweet child....please don't rush into this act. I can understand your curiosity...and I'm happy you have waited this long - I was 22 and if I knew then, what I found out afterwards - I would have waited more. First time sex for women is so much different than for men. Women are connected to the act with so much emotion. I'm not saying men don't have the emotional connection, but for us, it is usually about how we 'feel' about the guy. You should 1) completely trust and know the person as much as possible. 2) You should know that he feels the same about you, or has shown you the same amount of sensitivity towards the newness of the act for your sake. Many times, young men have already had their 'first time' and they think they know it all. It can be very painful! I will not lie. If you are not physically ready to receive a man inside you, and you are not emotionally ready and understand the ramifications that are involved (pregnancy, protection, disease, social reprocussions, such as friends talking about you, the guy telling all his pals, etc.) you might suffer an even greater injustice. Nobody knows your body like you do - but the 'first' time can leave more emotional scars than physical. It is not difficult to describe, but I must tell you that every one's experience is different. Some girls are ready and their bodies properly respond and some are not. Some experiences can really leave you never wanting to be touched again. Intimacy of this nature is sacred and pure and should be discussed and dealt with between two people who really love each other and are married or planning to marry soon. I would not touch this area without spiritual guidance. Don't worry about the description of 'how it feel's, just know that if you are asking - you are really not ready. Don't rush it. Take care of yourself - learn your body and keep yourself intact until the right person comes along. Experiment together.
2007-03-07 15:40:49
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answered by THE SINGER 7
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It might hurt for some girls...then again, it might not hurt. Not all girls feel any pain. I find that if the girl loves the guy, and if he loves her, there will not be any pain at all....just a little pressure and then a slight sharp pain, and then in a couple seconds the pain is gone....and from there on, it is a great pleasure for both of you.
I think a lot of it is mental, and how the girl thinks of the guy. If she loves him, her body will react to that love, and accept him with no problem. My girlfriend told me afterward, that she only felt a little pressure, and a slight snap, then it was really good. She bled a little bit, but the second time we had sex, it was wonderful, no pain at all, for either of us.
If both of you know that it is her first time, then the boy should respect her, and not force it inside very hard, just go slow and easy, take his time, and make the experience enjoyable for both of you.
If you are planning the first time, then the girl should take some extra underwear, because the ones she is wearing, will get bloody, and she might want to throw them away, so no one will know about it.
2007-03-08 00:37:24
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answered by Anonymous
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Each person is different...some it hurts a little and others experience no discomfort. Largely it depends on your partner and how he treats you and whether or not you are relaxed around that person. If you are all tensed up and all, you will not be able to enjoy it as much...in a scenario like that, your partner should go slow and be extra gentle with you to help you relax so you can experience all the wonderful pleasures of your first time!...This coming from the man's point of view!
I hope this helps a little! Sex can be fun, but with the wrong partner, can be the worst time of your life!
2007-03-08 00:04:04
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answered by reifrj 3
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For chicks its supposed to actually hurt. Since the hymen or whatever its called tears I guess.
Im not a woman, but you got to think theres going to be some kind of stretching going on. Sounds like a womans first time is horrible.
As for the guys first time, well mine. It did feel different but thats because my girls time was her first as well. Other than her body changing, the only difference is the first time was basically over before it got started.
2007-03-07 23:35:36
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answered by Thats me...A to the D 3
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Just hard pressure and popping...it hurts and you'll bleed so make sure you have a dark color blanket down as to not ruin anything. It will hurt for the first 6 or 7 times slightly until you get use to it.
2007-03-07 23:34:03
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answered by Anonymous
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Well for starters...when you're both really into it, it feels really good. My first time, I didn't bleed, but then again, not all girls do. At first it's just a lot of pressure, but the "wetter" you are, or the more lubricated you are, the easier it is for him to "glide". But once it stops hurting..its amazing....
2007-03-07 23:41:18
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answered by taken:* 1
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I m not a gal... but while me n my gf did it for d first time she screamed out of pain n pleasure... though there is some tearing n some pain... its not that much painful... it all depends on how sweet ur bf is... if its someone like me then it ll b nicee n u ll ask for more... like my gf did...
2007-03-07 23:53:04
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answered by Rico 2
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All i can say is that the first time it hurts.But after a while it feels good.
2007-03-07 23:35:50
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answered by christina b 2
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Have you ever had your fingernails pulled off one at a time?
It's nothing like that...
2007-03-07 23:35:22
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answered by Justin G 4
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if you are so curious........no one can explain it as well as you experiencing it yourself!
1)Rarely-Orgasmic
2)Painful
3)Nerve-Wracking
but its better with someone you really like/love and is comfortable with
2007-03-07 23:36:19
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answered by JamDQqueen 3
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