2007-03-07 15:25:48 · 12 answers · asked by jeni s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Do not react to it. At all, in any way. You MUST remain calm, or the behavior will continue or get worse.
You do need to sort of "watch" out of the corner of your eye that he doesn't hurt himself, but ignore the tantrum. If you said no, that's all it takes, the answer is no. period, the tantrum is to get a reaction and hopefully that you will cave in. If you show no reaction, the child will soon learn it's useless and try another way. Kids are great at trying anything to get what they want. Sometimes very young kids will throw a tantrum if they are overtired and just don't want to do something, sometimes they aren't even sure themselves what's the matter, so make sure that being tired or hungry isn't what's really wrong.
2007-03-07 15:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ignore them. I'd stay away from the "happy water" it can cause a child to go into convulsions, because they suck air in very quickly and sometimes their bronchial passages will spasam like an asthma attack and then the child is going to the hospital. I suggest investing in a child gate and putting it in the door of their bedroom. Put the child in the bedroom at tantrum peak and then go grab some headphones. This way you're not subjected t the tantrum but you can keep an eye on the child. It worked very well for me. My daughter was the queen of tantrums...which are nothing more than attention getters.
2007-03-08 02:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is a book called 1 2 3 magic ..... a friend of mine has a little boy with THE WORST TEMPER .... right from the time he was small. Nothing seemed to work for her until she found this book . The principal control is in the counting down his chances. The consequences must be consistent according to your location at the time ( a different one for shopping , home , etc. ) You, as the parent must also be consistent in your emotional response ..... keep it together and never over react. When they were home the consequences would always be for him to go to his bedroom and not come out until he was calm. Sometimes in the midst of his tantrum he would try to come out .... so she would hold the handle . Then he would destroy his room , throwing everything he could get his hands on as he screamed and cried.She was diligent in making him stay until he was calm and afterwards he had to go and clean up his room. I've never in my life seen a parent under these kinds of circumstances stay as calm and focused as she did .... it was amazing . Now the child is in grade school .... he still knows the 1 2 3 method and the consequences and we rarely see that temper of his.
Hope this helped a little .... take care : )
2007-03-07 23:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My daughter is nearly 16 months old and she throws tantrums for no reason. She tends to bang her head on the ground if I respond. So I've found that if I ignore her and continue about my business as though she's not there they tend to not last very long. If they bring the tantrum to where you are move away. Don't allow them to control the situation.
2007-03-08 00:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by makalas_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore them... watch Super Nanny, she will show you every Monday she has some crazy kid throwing a fit on TV, put them on a naughty mat, don't react to them, if they get off just put them back, without saying a word. It works for her, knock on wood my 4 year old hasn't thrown a tantrum yet, but when she starts to act up, I walk away from her and tell her until she is calm I will not speak to her.
2007-03-08 09:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by chefck26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daycare provider introduced me to happy water. She keeps a spray bottle or a cup with about 1/2 and inch of water in it. When the tantrum starts she sprays or dumps the water. It doesn't hurt them at all, but it gets their attention. I was at my wits end to end my daughters tantrums, and that did it, and quick.
2007-03-07 23:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by poseyschic 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I belive a fit is just a kids way of flipping out and I dont know if you have ever done it before but it is like a desicion that you make , so i let my kids throw they're fits and they dont last long and dont happen very often, my adivce is to do nothing at all just stand by unphased, even in public they have to know you wont respond to that behavior
2007-03-07 23:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by stacie_collins2001 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I ignore my son. giving him a response positive or negative would be like saying its ok. I also ignore him if he says a bad word cuase if you tell him not to say it he will probably keep saying it. Just try to think like a toddler when it comes to that kind of stuff.
2007-03-07 23:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by doepy_143 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ignore them. if they don't get a reaction wha'ts the point. explain it once and only once. i mean truly ignore them!!! walk out of the room!!! do not say anything just leave.
2007-03-07 23:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-03-08 03:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋